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Your Opinion On Forgiveness,

Do you think that if you forgive someone you are condoning what they did to you? I know the old saying “let it go” but that’s easier said than done.

Okay, let me explain. I watched a program about forgiveness last night on TV. It was about a family of four. I’ll try to make this short. The older son lied throughout the years but the parents never picked up on his various forms of deviousness. The family was very religious and they did a lot of socializing.

The oldest son killed the mother and younger son. He was interviewed in prison and said he did it because he couldn’t live up to the expectations his family had put on him so he killed the people that were causing him the stress. His father was shot at but not killed. At the funeral the father chose to forgive whoever did this to his family. It wasn’t known until months later that it was his oldest son who is now in prison on death row.

The phychiatrist, who is the family’s pastor, said that it was the best thing the father could do to forgive his son because that was the only way the father could go on with his life.

Could you do that kind of forgiveness?

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Answer #1

I Mean Yea Its Gonna Be Painful 2 Know That Someone Harmed Your Family But Ya Just Gotta Forgive Man.Trust Me That Person Is Gonna Get Theirs.When you don’t forgive the only person I believe is hurting from it is well..you.Please believe me that other person is not thinking about you.You hold it in so long it starts to eat you up thats why the say FORGIVE(for you)BUT NEVER FORGET so you wont be making the same mistake twice.And doesn’t it go if you caint forgive other people how do you expect god to forgive you??Thats really something to think about.-Just An opinion*

Answer #2

I couldn’t forgive anyone that harmed my family, let alone murder them! I mean I could forgive friends for stupid things like ‘oh you stole my boyfriend’ sorry thats all I could think of lol. I think forgiveness is a pretty big deal and not have to forgive people at certain times in your life otherwise your whole life would be spent being mad at people

Answer #3

I think that there are times - in which you do not have to have forgiveness for someone. In some cases, yes I believe if you forgive them you are condoning and saying what they did was allright.

Say in my case, the bullies in highschool who beat me, vandalized my car with spray paint, wrote things on my locker, left bible scriptures and bibles in my locker, tied me to fences and hit me, all because of my sexuality. I could NEVER forgive them.

That does not mean that I would ever stoop to there level or that I act or talk to them about it and argue with them and such. I haven’t seen these people in years - and even if I did - forgiveness would never be a word that I would use.

Answer #4

To me, we can and should forgive - all of us have fallen short and Christ set the greatest example of forgiveness that we don’t or ever could deserve…Take care !!

Answer #5

I’ve found that sincerely forgiving someone makes my life easier…holding on to bitterness and anger over things that can’t be changed, is a huge load to carry…Forgiving does more for the “forgiver” than the “forgivee”…

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