She loves her dad. Her gma. and everyone else. But when its time for her to come home to me after visiting them she cries. Its like I beat her or something. I work so hard for her and get her everything. It hurts me.
Well I can tell you from a GMA standpoint ....we spoil them ...that's our job :) But Colleen is right because you don't have the same luxury and have to discipline her. your getting the attitude. Sometimes dad's spend little time around there kids for job, etc reasons but also don't do much in the discipline area. Maybe you could talk to him to be more supportive and involved in the disciplinary aspects to let her know your not the only sheriff in town. Also check yourself if your not sub consciously rewarding her for her poor behavior out of feeling hurt and guilty. You may not see it but kids pick up on things really quick when they know how behavior A gets them B. At three, there is little going on outside their world they can take notice of...studying the family dynamics and buttons is what they do. I doubt she loves you any less then her instincts tell her what she can or can't do to get what she wants.
She's three and you're the boss ... it's normal behaviour. She gets all the love and attention she can when she visits, but when it's time to come home, it means back to rules and less special attention. Don't take it personally ... when my youngest was three she told the neighbours that I hit her (which I never did), and they called child welfare on me.
man... kids huh. it hurts. I feel like a mean mommy. its embarrasing. she doesnt want me when im around family. but thanks colleen. that made me feel better. i know she loves me. its just frustrating
Gotta love the modern world with the politically correct behavioral expectations and how quick kids are to pick up on how to use them. LOL
her bio-survival circuits are developing.