As a lot of you may know, my father passed away suddenly this april. We have a boat & we used to go out on the lake & fish a lot, just me & him. Those are a lot of my memories with him on that boat. When he passed, my cousin (mind you who is very irresponsible
& spoiled) begged us to give him my dad's truck. Which I talked my mom out of so we ended up giving it to his bank. Before my dad passed we were in the process of selling the boat, but he couldn't decide who to sell it to. After he passed we just called everything off & left the boat alone. The week after he died him & I where gonna go on the lake one last time before we got rid of the boat, but obviously we never made it..Anyways, recently my cousin got himself a new truck, & he keeps trying to convince my mom to let him have it & my mom wants to give it too him. I don't want him to have it, I don't want to have too see it in his hands. If I'm gonna have to look at the boat everyday, then it can stay on our drive way where it has been for the past 7 years, if were gonna get rid of it then I never want to see it again, as in it can't go to family. Is it wrong for me to be upset about this ?
I don't think it is wrong what-so-ever! That boat will always cherish the amazing memories that you and your dad shared. I wouldn't want it to go to someone who wouldn't take care of it and/or just wanted it because they usually get everything they want. If I were you, I would just sit my mom down and talk to her and tell her that you feel that you should be a part of who gets to have the boat or not, or if you even want to sell it quite yet. But I agree that it would either be better to have it as it is or give it away and not have to see it again. Not have to hand it over to someone that you barely like anyways and have to stand by and watch them brag for finally having it.
Maybe your mom is thinking one way, and you another. She may think the right thing is to keep your dads things in the family by giving it to your cousin. But obviously you have other feelings and emotions about it. It's best you let your mom know how seeing the boat on a daily basis is going to affect you and your emotions. It's a thing, and not worth everyones well being over. The memories you have with your dad and his boat are really what holds the real value and importance and nobody gets to have that, but you.
I think it's understandable that you're upset about it, but from an outsiders point of view it seems a little irrational, feelings put aside. Your Mom seems to respect what your thoughts are on the subject though, which is nice. Maybe tell her you want to wait a few months and see if your cousin gets any more responsible, maybe see if the truck lasts or something. If he were to somehow prove that he's able to take care of things, you might be more comfortable with the thought of the boat being in capable hands.
I understand your position and think it's reasonable.....unfortunately you're not the one 'in control'.....you made your case/provided your input at least.....best to move on and put your emphasis on other things of precious memories....Wish you the very best !!