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Wife tried things with past boyfriends that won't do with me. HELP

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My wife has done several sexual acts with her past boyfriends (anal, 69, etc.) that she refuses to do with me. She says that she was in a "different frame of mind then" and was more intent on pleasing her boyfriends than doing things that she actually wanted to do. As for anal, she tried it twice, and only twice, so I can kind of understand and forgive that. But 69: she not only did it with just about every guy other than me, but often offered it to them, versus anal that was offered to her and she simply caved in.

Should I feel slighted -- and I do -- that I am not getting the same consideration and pleasures that she has given to other men. This is really upsetting me as I waited until marriage to have sex.And, no, I am not a Christian, I just wanted sex to be really special and just with my true love -- which she is, but I have always wanted to try a few sexually adventurous things and now am being told "No" by my wife who has already tried them with other men.

I am feeling very cheated and hurt. We have had several conversations about this over the last 5 years of our marriage and seemed to reach no satisfactory conclusion for either of us. She is resentfull that I do not simply accept that "she is a different person now," and I am resentfull that she gave these men something that she is not willing to give to the man that is supposedly the only man in her life.

She says that she NEVER thinks of other men when she is with me, but it seems to me if that were true, then when these sexually adventurous things came up she would be willing to try them with me, instead of thinking of bad experiences she had in the past.