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Why do my lil cousins beat up on me?

I used to enjoy being with them back when we were all younger. But now every time I see them all they ever do is beat me up and cause trouble. They are a lot younger than me (I’m 20 and one is 13 and the other 9, both females) but I am the type of person to not really use violence. I wouldn’t even hurt a fly. I try to tell them to stop but that just pushes them more. I think it’s my soft nature and the fact that I am the only one who doesen’t really defend myself is the reason they have this erge to beat up on me every time I see them. Is there a way to stop this without stooping to their level?

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Answer #1

You could try just ignoring them first. If that doesn’t work,you could always ask them about it, just say, “why are you doing that?” when they start to beat you up. Try not to sound like you’re pleading with them, since that will encourage them. If they don’t have an explanation or keep doing it, you need to show them that they can’t treat you that way-tell them in your most no-nonsense voice that you won’t put up with it, then just leave the room. Think about how things have changed since when you guys were younger-you probably have less common interests. Try to find something to do that you all have in common- part of the problem might be that they are bored (not that it’s an excuse for beating you up). They might be using you as a way to have power over someone older. Hope I helped :) Good luck!

Answer #2

Abously you should now how to handle this better they are kids and you are an adult and they are going to keep doing it if you dont say anathing give them the whole massage and let them know draw the line when you guys are having fun and when the fun turn into not so fun.

Answer #3

im the same its horrible im 14 I get no respect from these kids like friends of family or my friends little siblings they call me boring cause I won’t run around with them and when I tell them to stop making fun of me or stop hurting me they don’t so I just stand up a leave oh and stand your ground and if they don’t stop raise your voice and yell it scares so they will get the message you are not happy with them and then see if they stop hope it helps

Answer #4

tell them to stop! your an adult put your foot down or this will continue

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