why do boys wank over porn instead of there girlfriend?

Haha, you’re obviously not married :) I read your profile and know you’re 15, but if you were married, you’d get it.

The fact is that once a guy has someone, they’ve already moved onto their next fantasy. It’s nothing personal; it’s just what happens. Before you an your boyfriend dated, I’m sure you were the subject of many of his whack off sessions. Now that he has had you (not sexually necessarily, but just in general), he has no big reason to fantasize.

It’s not a matter of him finding another woman more attractive. She’s just different and intangible. If he can’t have her, it’s a lot more fun to picture having sex with her. Plus, he can see her naked right there in front of him. Unless you’ve taken nude pics for him, it’s just not the same effect.

It took me a bit to understand all this because I’m a jealous person. I wanted to be the only thing in my husband’s mind. In reality, that’s just never going to happen, and I’m cool with that. So he thinks of other girls with sexual intents…big frickin deal. At the end of the day, he’s with me. He’s turned on by me. He’s in love with me. He married me…not any of those other girls. They have his mind a few moments of the day. I have his heart for life.

Maybe I’m just open minded, but I couldn’t care less about my husband looking at porn. I’m secure enough with myself to know that I’m better for him than anyone in a magazine or movie.

And just to let you know, I HIGHLY doubt your boyfriend has stopped masturbating to porn. He may not say he does, but you don’t know what goes on behind closed doors. He’s lying if he tells you that you’re the only one he whacks off to. You probably don’t even hit his mind. He may not jerk to the picture anymore, but you can’t erase his mental images.

Men and porn just go together, and the sooner women start to realize that, accept it and move on, the better off they’ll be.