Why are my cousins so sheltered?

They probobly are not sheltered they just are not people who are so outgoing, the stay whit the family they are more down to earth… sometimes not going out and having fun whit freidns and not having night out dosent mean they are hseltered sometimes there is something else they do they were raised a difrent way and some people are happy when they lve like that… I know what I’m talking about… Their mom might be a minie to you because your mom is difreent and all but I think you should just let them be because they may be happy how they are… meaby talk to them and ask them sometimes those are the people that can really teach us stuff…

GOOD LUCK:)

You should just be open with them, and tell them your concerns about your cousins. If they are as “religious” as you think,, they will probably enjoy the oppertunity to talk openly with you about their decisions on raising their children. Also,, are the kids upset with their life,, or does it just bother you that they are so sheltered, cause if they are happy,, you should respect that. But you might be surprised, if you handle it respectfully,, that they might not be as “mean” as you think, they may just be loving their children the best way they know how.

Thats just the way there parents are raising them. Yes it can be very antagonizing but what can you do? Yell at his mom and tell her to loosen up? haha I don’ think so, but what you can tell them is when they become of age they can move out and live there lives the way they want to live them right now there under the care of her so no matter how absurd it sounds there just going to have to cope with it until they can move out. On the other hand if its physical abuse then they have a right to move out because something like that will not be tolerated.

As much as it may irritate you, they aren’t your children and you have no say in the matter.

Leave it be - approaching your aunt and uncle about it is clearly overstepping your bounds.

the kids absolutely HATE their life one of them is of age and has tried to move out and when he asked for $100 (they are filthy rich and wont share it with no one) they said no because they said he was inconsiderate of their feelings by moving out with his girlfriend

There isnt anything you can do. This isnt up to you. I was raised this way too and when the time came, I got away and got out.

When I was kid it was Madonna and Micheal Jackson. I wasnt allowed to listen to that. I got in trouble for watching Madonn’a Material Girl video and my mother had the cable disconnected! We were only allowed to listen to Christian music and oldies. Everything we did was with church. We werent even allowed to say “shut up” or “dang”.

I survived it. Only slightly warped. LOL!

Its drives my mother INSANE that I will let my son listen to what I listen to (which is usually My Chemical Romance, Fall Out Boy, 20 Seconds to Mars, etc.), have long hair, watch stuff she HATES, and wear things with skulls on it or whatever. I have been accused of ruining him and that I will pay for this one day. She even called the Twilight books I was reading the other day because someone gave them to me for christmas “Devil books”! ROFL!

One of three things will happen with your cousins.

1.) They will completely rebel the older they get and this will have all backfired for their parents. They will turn into drug using, sex having, running around with the wrong crowd kids.

2.) They will totally cave and not only live this way now, but for the rest of their lives.

3.) Or…they will get their own life and make their own decisions once they become legal adults living on their own.

Lets hope for number 3.

But there isnt anything you can do about how your aunt and uncle want to raise their children. Especially if it isnt abusive.

I was raised that way and I turned out fine. I have other friends who lost their minds and went crazy…the way of option number 1. And I have a few friends who went the way of option number 2 and who are, amazingly enough, worse than their own parents were!! I have one who friend rebelled in such an amazing way that when she was 17 she married a 40 year old!! They are still together, she is my age and he is in his 60’s. They live on a farm, kill their own chickens, think vaccines are the government are bad and are total consipiracy theory nut jobs! I used to feel sorry for her. Now I feel sorry for her kids.

It isnt until the kids get older that they start to realize that not everyone is raised that way. And there is more to life than church and God. But they will see it one day and make their own decision.

Just be there for you cousins when they need someone to talk to or ask questions of. But dont be suprised if that comes back to bite you. If their parents dont want them knowing something and found out you told them, you could get in trouble.

I have someone just like this working for me right now. She is 19 and in the same exact situation. Her mother even tries to control what we do at work to what SHE thinks is appropriate. Uh…SORRY! Thats not going to happen! Some people are just so over zealous! My assistant and I are trying to help her out, give her advice and help her self esteem. If WE get dogged for that then so be it. But we are adults AND her bosses. I am not too worried about that. But you should just let it be. And please dont try to be the one who is going to “show them the world” and try to turn them just because you can. If something were to go wrong and someone got hurt or in trouble…you would feel really bad about that.

Its everyone’s right to raise their children as they see fit. Just be supportive of your cousins.

There not your kids so you can’t tell them what to do or how to raise them.

But I don’t know why…because I am not sheltered at all!.

My cousins are babied to my cousin is 13 and he plugged his ears when he heard the word sex on t.v. I would leave it alone it could ruin your relationship with your aunt if you tell her what to do even if you dont like her she is still your family and you should love them no matter what.

maybe you could talk about it with your cousins like, as them if they think they are missing out on the teenage stuff and such. if not, then its their choice.