Why does she want to grow up so fast?

My little sister is just 17years old shes been with her boyfriend for 2weeks, she has been with him before for a few months but it didnt work out, this time she says it has been a wholelot better, and I know shes happy with him. She has wanted a baby for a couple of years now no matterhow much anyone lectures her about how shes 2 young and wants to live her life, shes aparty animal and out all the time, dont get me wrong her prioritys would change but I still think its an immature thing to do, im 24 maybe im just gettin old!? She has been telling her boyfriend she is on the pill and they have slept together 6times this week without a condom each time him ‘cuming’ in her , she is determined to getpregnant before her next period, 3weeks away! She knows it isnt possible to just concieve like that and doesnt always happen but believe me she’s hoping she will fall lucky and shes trying her damn hardest! What can I say to her? Her boyfriend isnt the daddy type either and has just come out of prison 2months ago, and always in trouble with the law. shes my baby sister who wants to grow up too fast :(

Answer #1

Show her this please or print it out for her:

You are wanting a child for the wrong reason’s, and you are too young. Also, Trapping a man into a pregnancy is the worst possible thing you can do - the truth will come out and he will leave you!

You say you want a child, did you know that just the first year - a baby cost 10,000 dollars, and that’s not including medical bills, hospital bills, and doctor bills. Even with a minimum wage job - you can not afford that.

Also, let me explain this too you. Pregnancy and Birth are not as glam as people think it is. I just had my baby 5 months ago. Let me describe it. This is all 100 percent true, and not even half of what happens

The Pregnancy: -the swollen body parts that ache -the constipation -the hemmroids -the aching breast -the not being able to get up of the sofa by yourself -the strechmarks -the morning (allday) sickness -the kicks the baby gives to your ribs -the frequent urination -the constant pap smears -the blood work -Wanting to eat everything in sight -The bad teeth - a lot of pregnant women’s calcium get’s sucked out during pregnancy, you have to take your vitamins and take care of your teeth. You need to be taking prenatal vitamins daily also. It’s not only important for your baby’s health, but for yours also. A child sucks the nutrients out of you and you need those vitamins to keep yourself healthy.

The Birth: -Your pushing something the size of a watermelon out of something the size of a pea. -You are most likely going to tear, sometimes from front to back. -You get stitches. -You get poked in the back for the epidural -The epidural usually just takes the contractions away not the pressure -The pressure is a whole different kind of pain, imagine all your intestines, trying to escape from your vagina. -The contrations are like period cramps times a million. -The nurses are coming in every 30 seconds, to stick their fingers in you to check for dialation, give you a catheter to drain the pee out of you, and to poke around down there. -You can not eat or drink the ENTIRE time you are in labor. All you get is ice chips. -There the ring of fire, as they call it when the baby’s head crowns, it really does feel like your vagina is on fire and ripping! -90 percent of women take a crap while they are pushing the baby out, you can’t stop this from happening.

After the Birth: -Then afterwards, you have the fun adventure of bleeding for up to 6 weeks. The first time you get up out of the hospital bed after giving birth, blood and fluid gushes from your vagina all over the floor. -You’ll most likely pass blood clots after giving birth too. If you dont get to the bathroom fast enough, they can fall down your pantsleg. -Dont forget, no tampons! Only big nasty pads for the next 6 weeks! -Your breast will be engored and sore and will leak milk from anywhere from 1 week to 3 months. It is painful and you have to wear bra pads in order to keep from leaking through to your shirt.

Answer #2

Thanks for that , Nothing seems to bother her though =[ Like she really wants a baby!! She bought up her godson , hes now 18months and even calls her mum =| she had him everyday since he was 3days till now due to his mum had problems with caring for him, I have great respect for her for this as from 15 she stayed in every weekend with him ,even sometimes weeks in a row he was in her care. How can I make her realise this isnt going to be like having her godson and the responsibilites are endless! She denys she is trying to trap her boyfriend which I do believe in a sense beacuse she doesnt care who fathers the child, she wants one!! As for the hospital and doctors bills, they are free in the UK for everyone. Especially when you are pregnant and for 3years after your child is born.

Answer #3

I’m also 19 and have a 2 year old I lecture my friends all the time but sorry to say nothing you do will change her mind, I’m pretty sure of that. She’s not going to changer her mind till everything is said and done. Its just the way teens are these days

Answer #4

mandyloo is right. There is a “right” time to have a child and it’s generally related to a settled and forseeably stable future. Just “wanting” a child is not really sufficient reason. Having a child is a LIFETIME commitment. Believe me, they may leave home, marry, have kids of their own, but they are still your kids. Once you’ve started down the parenthood track, there comes a point where there’s no turning back, be the outcome and the future good, bad, indifferent or whatever.

And what future are you offering that child? None of us is in a position to guarantee our kids anything, but just “wanting” a child is insufficient reason to have one. It’s called selfishness.

Answer #5

She is trapping him if she is saying she is on the pill and she isn’t.

All you can do is try and explain it to her - if she still won’t listen - there’s not much you can do.

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