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My boyfriend and I got into a huge argument earlier and I broke up with him and kicked him out of my house.

It started with him coming home and ask what I was doing and I replied “writing to _“ (a friend who I just recently found out got locked up and was charged with murder & attempted murder).

And my boyfriend just went off and started overreacting and acted all controlling saying he felt very disrespected that I would write that guy.

The guy locked up is my childhood friend. We haven’t been very close anymore and went our own way doing our own things. There used to be a little “thing” between us a while back but nothing happened and he usually tries to hit on me even when I’m with my ex-boyfriend who was my current boyfriend at the time. But ever since I’m with my new boyfriend (the one I’m having problems with right now) he respects my boyfriend so he haven’t done anything to disrespect me or him.

I didn’t think it was such a big deal to be writing to him. It’s not fun in jail and to recieve a letter from a friend means a lot and I’m just trying to show him support because he’s been there for me as well. But my boyfriend feels different. I see him as a controlling assshole.

What do you think?

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Answer #1

and being jealous CAN mean they care about you.

BUT THEN AGAIN, it can also mean that they just see you as a property. I told my boyfriend straight up I got a life of my own and it certainly do not revolve around him. I just don’t like this jealousy thing because in some situations, it gets too outta hand and people start being emotionally abused by their partner.

Answer #2

I do think he over reacted, but maybe somthing has happend in the past with him that made him get bothered by that.

Answer #3

I do think he over reacted, but maybe somthing has happend in the past with him that made him get bothered by that.

Answer #4

He did over-react. But maybe he doesn’t know your full history with this guy and thinks you might have a ‘close’ history?

Just talk to him calmly about the issue.

Answer #5

thank you so much. my boyfriend came back and everythings fine now. oh and I kickd him out because it I was fed up with him being controlling so this wasn’t the first time it happened otherwise I wouldn’t resort to that kind of behavior.

I never even dated that guy that’s in jail now. he’s just my really close friend and we USED to like each other.

My boyfriend told me that me and that guy haven’t talked for a while therefore, do not need to even when he’s in jail now. I see it this way. Even when you haven’t talk to your friends in a while, you should appear when the need you the most. & RIGHT NOW, I think is the time he needs the most support from everyone being locked up and all.

Answer #6

it’s not your fault but it could make any of your future boyfriend(s) misunderstand you. You need to learn how to keep the relation between you and your current boy friend and with your old boy friend. You should have told him about the child hood friend and his situation since you just dated him. Make him understand about you, your relations with friends in the past, so when he saw that you were writing a letter to him, he wouldn’t be so upset or misunderstanding.

Answer #7

You over reacted too in my opinion. Just because your boyfriend got jealous you didn’t have to kick him out and break up with him. Jealousy even though it can be annoying it shows how much he really loves you if you think about it. Also if I was your boyfriend I would have been like the guy was charged for murder and attempted murder I don’t think you should be caring to stay in contact or make someone crazy like that happy in jail.

you feel me ? haha I think you overreacted as much as anyone

Answer #8

I think it’s your fault lol because you kicked him out and broke up with him lol

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