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Is It My Fault?

So my girlfriend went to a party last night and it really upset me. The last time we dated she went to a party and sucked some guys dck and we broke up. We got back together and its been good. So last night she told me she was going to a college party with older guys and drinking and I got really upset. She texted me later saying she went to a different party and she knew I was upset. She promised me that she wasnt gonna cheat on me and she wouldnt drink. Later she told me she only dranked a little and she didnt get drunk. She knew I was pssed off because I was scared she was gonna cheat on me.she swore to me that she didnt cheat on me and that last time was such a mistake. I believe that she didnt cheat on me.

I just dont know why im feeling like this.

Im still upset even tho I know she didnt do anything

Why do I feel like this? Did I have a valid reason to be upset? How can I get passed this feeling and go back to normal?

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Answer #1

ok if I was youh I WOULDNT let her go to a party with boys only or if not I’ll go with her so probably did cheated on you bc if she did it once she could do it again & she promised you she wasnt going to drink and she did . I think its not your fault & you should dump her bc you probably deserve better & shes not worth your timee & im a girl by the way & if I go to a party & cheat on my boyfriend and he’ll forgive me you you knoe why not do it again but hey you never knoe if she did’nt do nothing bad , but my opinion is she probably did something bad & the next time youh should go with her or not let her go at all.

Answer #2

You feel like that because your heart has been broken before. She broke yur trust and for anyone it is hard to regain that trust. If you believe she didn’t do anything then you have got to go with that. Don’t eat away at yourself with what ifs and might have beens. If you truely belive she didn’t do it then you just have to let it go.

You had every valid reason to be upset and your reaction was totally normal. You felt that way because she was going back in to a similar situation were she cheated on you last time- it is going to hurt.

Past the feeling and get back to normal- once someone cheats it may never get back to “normal” to be honest. There’s always going to be little insecurities and niggles that you just keep on thinking about. You can either work through it and trust or part as an untrusting relationship can not always work. So what do you want? Are you ok at the moment to get pat the insecurities or do you want out now? Your decision.

Answer #3

its not your fault because she has hurt you before & your afraid that it will be wourse than before but you have 2 learn 2 trust her again, it might take awhile but you will trust me

Answer #4

I think you did, and it isnt your fault. She cheated on you and now you don’t trust her as much as you once did, its understandable. Just know that she isnt cheating on you now, and if you know that then there shouldn’t be a problem anymore :]

Answer #5

tell her you dont like her going to the parties my girlfriend dont go to parties cause she knows I dont like her going with other guys so she only goes with me you have a valid reason to be upset

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