I had the worst experience at a cafe and I decided not to tip the guy. The guy with me left a tip instead and refused to not tip him! I was furious with him for taking the waiter's side on this and I felt betrayed. Did I break some unspoken rule to always tip even if the service sucks?
I only stiffed one waiter in the last 20 years. I was driving all day and night to visit my parents and stopped at the half-way point to eat and drink a bunch of coffee. I was nearly the only patron in the restaurant. It seems that a bunch of my server's friends were at another table and my server was more concerned in hanging out with friends than taking care of me. It took him 15 minutes to come get my drink order before he went back to his friends. He never refilled my coffee once; I eventually gave up and walked behind the counter to get my own refills. After I got my food he never came back to check on me and never brought the check; I ended up just going to the casheer and telling him what I got so I could settle up. I didn't leave that waiter anything.
I generally consider 15% my minimum tip. Waiters are paid based on getting tips so if I don't tip 15% I feel like I'm literally stealing their pay. The waiter I stiffed wasn't doing his job so I didn't feel like he deserved to be paid to hang with his friends.
One thing I'm conscious of is the unfairness of tipping a percentage of your check. If I eat someplace with $5 entrees and another place with $20 entrees did the second waiter do 4 times as much work? Tipping a percentage makes it seem that way. When I eat at an expensive place the waiter will have to really be good to get above 15% but at cheap places when a waiter really does a good job I've left as much as 100% gratuity. Why should a waiter be penalized for working at a reasonably priced restaurant?
Of course always tip well at restaurants you are a regular at. You don't want them spitting in your food or worse when they see you. Since I'm a pretty good tipper I've had waiters fight to serve me when they saw me come in the door. Also, when there was something wrong with my food or service the waitresses who know me usually comp my meal to be sure I'm happy and will come back.
didn't you watch "Waiting" the movie........u never know what happens at these places, i steer clear of trouble, but if the server is really apathetic towards our party well in that instance i would talk to the manager, but i usually just talk to the server themselves, cmon they're ppl like you and me, they can be having a bad day seriously none of you can tell me that there hasn't been one instance in your life where you've been grouchy the whole day after something in your life didn't go the way you did, and yes that could translate into the work environment too, if that person behaves like this everytime you go there, then you have a reason not to tip.........tipping is like unspoken bond between a customer and a server, no matter where the server works at, its like the valet service unless there is something wrong with your car you tip the guy, aka if there is a real big blunder on your order, in the sense that its got hair and whatnot in it, thats where you draw the line............
i tip regardless, stop being the grouch, because most ppl feel they are in control of that aspect they like to skip out on the tip, remember Karma's a Bitch
Hope this helps
I can see both sides of this issue. Not tipping may lead to the waiter being rude to you in the future. At the same time, it may lead to them improving service.
Inept waiters don't remain inept waiters for long.
However, I believe that you are more upset with your dining partner, then with the waiter, because he took the waiter's side! Am I correct?
In the extremely rare situation that service is so bad that it would be appropriate to not leave a tip at all. You should speak to the manager.
If service is merely, "not good", I like to leave a less than par tip, say 10-15%.
I have been known in the past to write a not on the bill explaining the problem.
You should definitely NOT tip him if you didn't like the service! You are right, tipping is only up to you! Especially in a cafe! In a restaurant it's a little different and you should generally tip (up to 10% of the bill), unless it's written that the tip is included in the bill already. Be less generous, ok?
Personally i'm a pretty good tipper, about 20 percent, if the service is horrible i still tip but i tip in the 5-10 percent range instead.