What with my depression?

god its really annoying. I’ve been depressed for 3 years now, and its awful. No one knows how sad and in pain I am, and I feel like one day I will go nuts. At first it was one week out of every month that I was having problems, then 2 weeks every month, and now its everyday at least 3/4 of the day that I feel sad and all that jazz. I have NO reason whatsoever to be sad, I have a roof over my head, food, material possesions, friends, and great parents. but I dont feel like they know me, I always put an act on for them, because I generally put others before myself. I went to counsling, but once I get in her office, I lie my butt off, because I dotn want to get in trouble, or have to go to the hospital. I really think im being too self absorbed, do you think I am, I just feel like I shouldnt be depressed and its wrong.

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Answer #1

I know how you feel depression is one of the most addictive habits to get yourself into because life in general is a diffacult task to endure.

First you need to accept that your not “Abnormal” that your depressed because you are “Human” and everyone will get depressed every now and then so the first step is to not think what your doing is wrong.

But what you need to work on is dealing with depression because if you dont it can drag along with you for many years like you are saying. I have went through that same road I would be depressed for years of being lonely, not having a steady girlfriend. But I learned that life is more then about yourself and you need to find a true purpose of who you are instead of worrying so much of what your future is going to turn out.

I really learned that the more time you spend worrying about yourself the more time you are going to be depressed, miserible, lonely, suicidle. What you need to do is let go of these feelings work on being social, or find some hobbies, get yourself involved in busy in something to make you feel like you have a “Purpose” to live. Because the more you do these things the more you will encounter people who are going to want to be apart of your life its the only way to “Connect”. If you stay all sheltered up locked up in your room with the blinds down hugging your knees as you sit against your closet your not going to be apart of anyones life because you are “Hiding”. Its not there fault that youre locking yourself up away from everyone else. All you can do is work on trying to be more social a step at a time to feel more “accepted”. I hope this advice will help you out, and learn to love yourself and let go of these depressed feelings you are a human being after all.

Answer #2

If you are having problems or are depressed, below are a couple of sites that may help you:

Worldwide:

Check out the Befrienders link below. They are not only a suicide hotline but also offer help to people who are stressed or are in a state of depression.

http://www.befrienders.org/support/helplines.asp

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If in the U.S.A., you also have access to:

Girls and Boys Town National Hotline

Call With Any Problem, Any Time

1-800-448-3000

http://www.girlsandboystown.org/hotline/index.asp

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Answer #3

lol, my parents didnt know I was unhappy till I was in the hospital getting blood pumped into me, I had the grades, friends, ofcourse they didnt know… (trust me dark thoughts were basically how I lived)

but therapists know the difference between dark thoughts (yes even suicidal ones) and an actual plan to commit suicide… you’ve obviously had some idiotic counselors, and well dont expect people who arent trained to get it (your mum loves you, but it’s hard for most people to understand) but if you keep persisting you will find the right person…

I told mine I had tried to kill myself, but I wasnt suicidal any more and she backed me up… kept me out of the psych ward, and helped me get back on my feet… therapists like that do exist, and it is worth your while to keep trying to find one who can help you…

Answer #4

look, you know what, I know this is hard to believe (because I didnt believe it) but sometimes it can get better. I’m not saying my life is perfect, but atleast driving into oncoming traffic is not the only thing I think about while I’m driving… if you find the right person to talk to then they may be able to help you get over being so miserable all the time… you need to trust that the right person will not lock you up, and try and find the right person… ideally someone who is younger (I.e. less than 45) and has dealt with self harm, suicidality and depression… no one on this site or any other site can fix it… we can acknowledge your pain, and you may find people who have been through or are going through the same thing, but to fix it, you need a good professional…

Answer #5

Lol, I have wondered the same thing for the past 8 years, there’s people starving, walking miles to get food and water, living in mud huts, and yet I’m complaining about being sad. But you know what, depression is like every other illness, it’s not your fault. You can’t snap out of it… You are not putting it on yourself. And guilt will not help you… Look, telling someone how you feel will not get you in trouble or put you in the hospital (unlike idiotic doctors who dont know better, therapists know that all sorts of harmful behavior and suicidal thoughts are common among depressed patients…) unless you say I want to kill myself, I have a date, time and method, they will not hospitalize you. Talk to them, what do you have to lose, they may be able to help…

Answer #6

I have only seriously thougth about ending it 5 times, and only once in the last month, I had a place, and plan. glad I didnt tho because that same night another kid had killed himself the same exact way, I cried so much because that couldve been me

Answer #7

I never understand people who say snap out of it (who on earth chooses to be depressed and hate being alive!). Why do you think you’d go to the hospital if you told them the truth? (I get your aversion to being locked up, it’s not a nice place, but honestly unless they think you’re in imminent danger they wont lock you up…)

Answer #8

well, I have very deep…dark…thoughts…no one around me quite understands. my mom, and even my ex-counsler told me to snap out of it, and it made it worst. if you saw me on the streets you would think I was the most happy, self assured person on the planet.looks can be deceiving.

Answer #9

thanks ty, at least someone understands how I feel, and I cant just snap out of it like everyone tells me to. and I would go to the hospital if I spoke my mind, lol.

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