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What to do if I love his personality but no physical attraction?

So there is this boy who has liked me for a while. He’s one of my closest guy friends and I always just accepted the fact that he liked me and I didn’t like him but we can still be so close. Well, lately I’ve started noticing that I have feelings for him. He treats me so sweetly and I like it. It feels natural when he puts his arm around me. The only problem is, I’m not physically attracted to him at all. He has the sweetest personality but I kind of think he’s ugly. I know it sounds really shallow but for a relationship to work, shouldn’t there also be a physical attraction? Any advice would be awesome! Thankss!!

  • Emily
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Answer #1

I think physical attraction is important. That’s the whole point of it, if you’re attracted to a person will want to have sex with them, thus you propagate both your genes. We can’t deny our fundamental purpose on this planet. People think not being superficial means not caring about looks at all, I fundamentally disagree, I think it means not solely caring about them when looking for a partner. With regard to your situation, I’d say there are no hard and fast rules, you do what is right for you, whether you can see yourself being with this guy for ever. I personally can’t see how you can be with a guy you deem to be ugly. Surely there has to be at least some physical attraction for a relationship? Otherwise why don;t you just be friends? On the other hand, I do think true love does transcend anything physical. As I say, whatever feels right for you.

Answer #2

OMG girl im in the same boat as u. there is no need for good looks. looks dont last forever. my boyfriend and I have been together for awhile and he was my bff for 2 years before we dated. he like me and it took me time to like him. now we are deeply in love and he is the best thing to ever happened to me. hes not the best looking but I couldnt care less about that. the way he treats me and makes my feel loves and cares for me is worth it. my family cares too much about looks and are shallow about it but idc what they think if it feels right to be with him then I say go for it

Answer #3

first impressions last and whats the 1st thing you see when you meet someone?

Yes, their looks…

as you get older you will see that first impressions are useless and youll only really get to know someone by sitting down and talking to them

you said it yourself: ‘He treats me so sweetly and I like it. It feels natural when he puts his arm around me.’

when 1 person can make another feel this way its special :)

Answer #4

With natural attraction, the physical attraction (is it really THAT important?) should soon follow. And if it doesn’t, then you really are shallow.

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