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What should I do if my dad is an alcoholic?
My dad is also an alcoholic.when I was in fourth grade his fiance (not anymore) convinced him to get help. after they broke up he caused me to move and uproot my life in order to hide his past. he took me away from some of the most important people in my life. right after we moved he started drinking again. since hes not stopping hes about to make me have to walk away from my new life all over again and go live somewhere else. its just my dad and I but thankfully I have good friends and family that try and help. at least its somewhere to go when my dads drunk, but I dont know what would be worse not having a home to go to or like me, having a home but not wanting to go to it. im sick of my dad hiding alcohol then actin like im such an immature kid that doesnt understand. the thing is my mom was an alcoholic and he left her and fought in court for me and I dont understand why he is just giving me up now to just be like her. im really really thankful that moved here though for one reason. my friends made me go to youth group with them. I got saved (asked jesus into my heart) and it didnt make my dad stop drinking but it made the way it affected me less hard and if I hadnt made the choice I did id ont know if I would still be here today. im not and repeat not going to let my dads choices make my life turn out bad, I've learned from his mistakes and am still currently doing so. I have seen what drinking can do to a family and how it hurts people. and I have learned how to love people by seeing how not to. I dont want to be like my dad and I wont. I've made the choice not to drink when I am older because I dont want to even risk turning out like him. im trying my best in school so I can make a life for me. if your feeling hopeless, talk to god. just rry it im not a religious freak who is preaching to you im a person with an alcoholic father and had no one to turn to just a short time ago and I want to give you someone you can turn to. you may ask why god did this to you in the first place and thats because he knew your would b strong enough to take it and also smart enough to learn from it. life goes on and if you choose for it not to be your life will be nothing like your fathers.
if your dad is an alcoholic , try to talk to him , try to get ome alone time with him , thenn say " dad , I'm worried about you drinking , I don't want anything to happen to you , I wish you would stop , I love you ' , and look in the yellow pages for a group for teenagers who deal with parents who are alcoholic , or get him to join a group for alcoholics , but if he's abusing you , call the police or go to someone you trust ( realitve , mom , favorite teacher , etc ) , don't be afraid to tell somebody , I hope you this helps you , god bless you
mine is too..and yea I do the same thing with my dad..I just try to stay in my room most of the time when im in the house to avoid him...it sucks but its been a long struggle and in a year ill finally be out of the house and at college :)
anyway alcoholics rarely want to admit they have a problem and its important to try and say something to get them to get help. but in the end-they have to want to get the help. just dont judge and continue to love your father despite the choices he makes. thats the simplest way to put it.
someone close to me is an alcoholic. the first thing you need to do is confront him about it (if it's not dangerous to do so) if he's open to talking about it, then take the opportunity, after make him show you where they have anything hidden and immediately dump it down the drain. afterwards, help him find a center where they have AA meetings, and I guess the only other thing you can do is let him know you're there for support, no matter what.
hope that helps :]
my dad is and alcoholic too, and just like the st I try and avoid him when hes home. however its causing us to b distant because we d spend time together. if I try and talk to him to get him to stop he makes out that hes old enuff to do what he wants and spend his own money so I shud butt out. he says he'll live out on he streets if he has too, without us if he has too but won live without his drink :-(
I googled this because of my fear. My dad is currently drunk(dangerously drunk). I wish my mom would just get a divorce! after 20 years (I think) you would think she had by now! but sadly im crying in my room, door locked, listening to screaming, and writing...like you, I dont know what to do. one thing is for sure, talk.
if you have an hour, check out an alanon meeting. there is a nationwide (may be worldwide.. I dunno) support group just for friends and family of alcoholics. they can give you some awesome advice. if you find their site online, it can tell you meeting times and places in your area.
when my dad was an alcoholic. I stayed away from him as much as I could. Running away from home isnt an option! Just try and avoid him. If he abuses you then you should call the cops on him. Thats what my mom did when my dad was out of control...
Just stay in your room and lock your door. If you can go school and work most of the time that is also recommended. When he talks to you do not appear confrontational just try to escape his presence some how when he is under the influence.
my dads an alcoholic too. I just try to stay away from him as much as I possibly can. If he's someone in the house I dont go in that room unless I really have too.