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How to escape an abusive household?

I am Sharen and have lived in a house with a man who brutally abused me for five years. I tried to excape and he found me a burned me with an iron and really hurted my self-esteem. I am having a baby and he says he’ll tie me up and allow it to spit in my face when it gets older. I am writing this on his computer and everyday I will swat all the inforrmation out on history swatter what should I do? I am very scared of him I love him but I feel like a prisioner should I leave now and my unborn child not have a father? or should I let him grow up to be just like his dad I need advice please!please!please! I cry my heart out to you

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Answer #1

It is not as easy as calling the police. You are scared and he knows how to manipulate you into getting back with him- after which he will hurt you for leaving in the first place. Call the national abuse hotline. They will help you plan how you can get away asap, quickly. Keep your documents safe. Secretly pack your stuff. Tell someone you trust. When you go to the clinic for your prenatal care, plan never to come back. Do not keep in contact with him. Run far away and never look back or you may end up like Lots wife, a bag of salt…ie DEAD.

Answer #2

CALL FOR HELP! honey get help now please! tell another sibling, call the police when hes not around and show them proof that he beats you, GET HELP PLEASE!

Answer #3

honey… you need to get out of that house as soon as you can.

go to your moms house… or a friends… anywhere…

its safer for you and your child…

what kind of mother would you be if you let your child see the stuff he does to you… &&

what makes you think he wont beat the child too.??

you cnt put that child in some kind of endangerment.

Answer #4

I’d rather come to this persons aide, if they are truly in need, than just assume its fake. The advice is there, if they choose to use it or not is their decision.

Answer #5

Captain Assasin is right.

It’s as if someone is asking “What color is the sky?” or “Is murder bad?”

Lock the question.

Answer #6

You may not feel able to cuz you love him so on and he scares you but the answer IS obvious. Get help, get out, go to a shelter or family or friends or the police. An abusive husband can only get worse and how do you know how he will treat the child??? Think of its future.

Answer #7

Here are some numbers to contact:

Abuse Victims Hotline (Support for victims of physical, psychological, sexual and financial abuse) (866) 662-4535 avhotline.org

Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-SAFE (7233)

R.A.I.N.N. (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) (800) 656-4673

Please get some help. Your life AND your childs life are at risk.

Answer #8

She uses her Internet connection to visit a social networking/advice site, instead of the police… nahhh…

Answer #9

call the police or go stay wid a friend and I am sorry that you are fetting abused

Answer #10

OMG! If he doesn’t treat you right, get help!

Answer #11

the best thing to do is to tell the police. You have to leave him and find someone who won’t treat you that way

Answer #12

its better to have no father than a crazy one think about that

Answer #13

This isn’t very believable…

Answer #14

The answer is obvious… get some help! Go to either the police, or to a shelter for abused women and children. Tell them you are scared for your life and need help. DO NOT STAY IN THIS SITUATION, IT WILL ONLY GET WORSE. Get out while you can. Please, be smart, and leave this abusive relationship. It is better too have no father at all, than to have that kind of one.

Answer #15

LEAVE! Don’t be stupid! Bringing a child into an abusive house is just asking for them to grow up and be the same way. Since you can’t leave for yourself, leave for your baby. GET HELP!!

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