What happened to our relationship?

I was told this past Saturday 10/27 that he saw my ex-boyfriend out on his back deck with another woman and they were standing too close for it to be anything casual. He turned around to go back by and they were standing by her vehicle. Later that evening her vehicle was back over there but did not stay over night. He lives just around the corner from me. It was nice of my friend to help me find out the truth here. IT was ALL about another woman and he lied to me about that. I now know the truth he would not tell me because he is gutless two timer. He does not deserve me or any good decent woman who he encounters in the future. I guess that is why he has been divorced three times and been single at 61 yr. old for four years. He likes to chase younger women, lies that he is 56 yrs old and pretends to have money that he does not have. He is going bankfrupt over a lawsuit he is involved in. That poor girl he was seen with any other woman who he tries to get involved with. He admitted that he cheated on his first ex. Once a cheater, always a cheater…right?

Dear koobeedoo, At this point it doesn’t matter what happened…he has asked you to leave, wishes for you not to communicate with him. In a perfect world you could speak with him, get the truth, get him help and the you both live happily ever after. But you cannot make him speak with you or tell you the truth. You’ve tried and tried now take a step back. Perhaps he felt you’d be better off without him…he may be right. Perhaps he does have another woman on the side and still you’d be better off without him. It’s a sad situation and I understand you feel helpless to help him but if he refuses your help and you’ve reached out there isn’t much more you can do. He had a string of bad luck but this is life. He would no doubt benefit from counselling at this point but this will have to be his decision to go. Sue…good luck

don’t go after him, maybe he think you’ll come running and worried, then again, maybe not. but just let it be