Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 8 months. I'm 18 she's 16 and here's the shocker: I'm a virgin and she isn't. she told me it's because she doesnt find sex to be something important and she has only had it with two guys one being her ex which she had sex with 3 months in andnthis guy she only saw once a week. so doing the math the 12th time she saw him she did him (also having sex with him nearly every time after). I've seen her 5-6 times a week for nearly 8 months. so that's at least 160 times... and I stay with her for 6+ hours on each of those times. and its not that im less attractive than he was she's said im much more attractive than him actually and I doubt shed lie about something like that because she's normally brutally honest and doesn't really seem to care whether she hurts my or anyone else's feelings.
she's expressed to me why she doesnt want to have sex wiith me and I agree with her in saying we should wait so thats not the problem, the problem is that we USED to make out a lot and do other stuff like fingering, oral, etc. now we don't even kiss and honestly I feel like we're stereotypical married couple. I mean we still do stuff... well I guess its more me doing stuff to her but its only twice a week, if that, when we used to 3 times a day and she'd do things to me too. im never able to initiate because one of us always ends up mad.
what I'm trying to say is I miss the girl I fell in love with the one who'd show me she was interested in me, when im with her now all we d is watch tv and I can't f*** stand it it drives me crazy because I feel like im not with her anymore im just there doing nothing and if I try to read a book of mine or draw she gets upset with me saying I dont want to spend time with her. I've tried taking her places but she never wants to go out. I love this girl and I can't just let her go and I know that but its been weighing on my mind that I should ask for a break.
and yes I've tried talking to her about this.
I too had a simular issue man. very simular. but mine came 1 year and 6 months in. we also sit and watch tv and use to do that kind of thing all the time. she crushed me and we did the whole break thing. it was a toss up man. it could either bring us closer together or furher apart. we didnt really talk much the first week, then I started to text her and use a social site to talk to her more. just to let her know I still love her. what helped out in the end is friends, but show her that your stil exciting and act like you havent seen her everyday for the last 6 months, because if you love her youd pretty much do whatever it takes to make it work. I am 20 she is 17 I understand the age difference. I don't know if it helped but let me know maybe I can answer some more ?'s
well I really want to make it work I think thats the biggest problem is I seem boring to her and its hard to be a spontaneous fun person bc she shuts down all my ideas such as to go to the beach or write each other letters or make a nice dinner or something and another huge problem would hafta be that I have a spine condition that causes me a lot of pain that I hafta get surgery for and although it makes me very uncomfortable and puts me in pain I still bike to see her its a seven mile ride and I don't complain bc its my choice but I would like her to appreciate what I go through to see her
Ok I can honestly say I didn't read it all but I read she had sex a lot and if she has had sex that much I think she could get a blue waffle haha ( if you do nt know what it is llook It up oh and sorry I didn't read it all but I'm tired
O_o ouch...
_> sorry to be the pessimist here but seems like she doesnt seem interested in you anymore... and she doesnt want to break up cause of your condition...
but anyways good luck with that
