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what do I do when my family is falling apart?

today is probably one of the worst days of my life, school was fine then when im walking inside I smell somthing wierd and my mom came inside too but she ussually dosnt b.c. she needs to go to work. but then I asked do you smell that? and then I relized what it was…w33d my brother was smoking w33d with his girl friend. I know he does w33d and smokes my mom knows he does weed to but got really mad when she smelled it so she yanked him outta his room and slapped him right in front of me then starting cursing and yelling at him and basiclly kicked him out. and I love my brother more than any other family member and even more than some of my close friends, he the only one I can talk to because I stopped seeing my dad last year (I hate him), and me and my mom rarely get along and hes my only sibling I have and after my mom left he said sorry and he would see me in a few days, and after a while I went in his room and found a b0ng,c!gare$,l!ters,w33d,a l!quer bottle and more so I texted him and asked if he wanted me to hide anything eventhough he said no, I did anyway b.c. I dont want him to get in any more trouble. and then he said he loved me and I was a grt sister and I told him I loved him and not to do anything stupid to get him kicked out for good but we both know it going to happen soon and im afraid that ill start cutting agine because I just stopped(on my own btw : )) and im afraid ill become depressed agine

btw hes 19 and my mom knows hes done w33d (he got arrested for it) and dr!nks but she dosnt know he sm0kes

and I love him a lot

so how do I do to get my mom to lossin up a bit and for my brother to stop acting immature, I dont mind if he does w33d but I dont like the fact hes sm0king and underaged dr!nk!ng

btw im going to a counseler this week do you think I should discuss this wth the counseler?

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Answer #1

Makethegirldance that is not completely true, if you tell your concillor you are engaging in illegal activity, or planning to kill someone, or planning to harm yourself etc they are bound by law to report it.

Answer #2

The only advice I am going to give you about this is to YES, discuss all of this with your councilor, there is nobody on this site who will be able to help you as much as a qualified professional can. I wish all the best for you and your family.

Answer #3

yes I think that you should discuss this whit the cauncelor… you know to just get it out…

But you also gatta understand that what your brother is doing is wrong and it’s hurting everybody, he loves you… will he stop smiking and drinking for you? Because all his bad choices are hurthing you and if he loves you he would stop to stop hurting you… He’s making the bd choices He is paying the consequences.. Just discuss it and wait till your brother comes bac try to talk some sence into him…

GOOD LUCK:)

Answer #4

Oh Aec I’m very sorry things are going like this. Unfortunatly I can’t give you a lot of advice on the matter. Only a bit. Don’t worry about ddepression cause ironically it causes depression. And don’t try to think about cutting and try doing something else with your time. If you stopped on your own you’re strong enough to resist it now. Maybe you should see what the plans are now. Maybe your mother wants to talk with you and your brother?

Answer #5

OH HELL.

ONLY ANSWER A QUESTION IF YOU HAVE ADVICE THAT YOU CAN BACK UP SOMEHOW. DO NOT THROW RANDOM “FACTS” OUT THERE THAT AREN’T TRUE.

That said, tell your counselor everything. EVEN the drugs part. They CANNOT<— REALLY CANNOT get him arrested for drugs. Absolutely NOTHING you tell them is allowed to be told to anyone else. [Its the law]

Answer #6

you should tell your counseler about all of it except the drug part.they could get your bro arrested for a long time cause of weed.

Answer #7

my brothers 21 and yeah I know what you mean not being able to see a sibling you love so much for a long time. /: unfourtunatly your mom proably wont let him in the house again im guessing so well make sure you have time to see him and hang out as ushal unfourtuantly you’ll have to ajust /: Dont inflict any pain on urself and keep your head high.

If you honestly love your brother then be a good kid basically. He seems like he loves you a lot and wants to see you become a good person. If you hurt yourself you’ll hurt him too.

Talk to somebody you trust dont keep this bottled up. hope everything works out(:

Answer #8

I’m going to a counseler too! You should tell. ;)

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