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What do I do? I don't want to cheat on him! HELP?

Im 25, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years. I care about him, I guess I love him, but there is NO passion whatsoever. When we do have sex (believe me its not very often) he only lasts a few minutes. Its making me crazy! I can’t talk to him b/c he gets his feelings hurt. We NEVER fight, he won’t allow a fight, he either says “ok hun your right, or says he doesn’t want to talk about it.” I mean we’re too young to be in this kind of rut. We are talking about getting married but I don’t know. Now I have been talking to this older, gorgeous man, and I all I can think about is one wild fling to see if I really want to stay with my boyfriend. I know its a horrible bad idea, but I desire it sooo strongly I don’t know if I can stop myself. What do you think I should do!?

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Answer #1

You should definitely talk to your boyfriend about all of this, especially when you say you “think” you love him, doesn’t sound very convincing. Maybe it’s time to go your separate ways? But do NOT cheat on him, and even if the thought of cheating on him enters your mind, you should end it. It’s not fair to either of you.

Answer #2

get them both together and then ask them questions from your heart and see what they answer and whoever gets the most answers that you like gets you

Answer #3

I think you should end it with your boyfriend if ther is no real passion and love then there is no point .your boyfriend may sulk for a wile and get upset but he will get over it .

Answer #4

If I’m being honest, I really think you and your boyfriend need to figure out where you’re at. If you can’t talk about things because he may get upset, how will you ever last if you get married? For a relationship to work, you need to have proper communication. These issues you have with him NEED to be addressed. The fact that they aren’t being addressed is more than likely the reason for all of your doubts right now. You should not NEED to have sex with another person to figure out if you really want to work on it with him.

That being said, figure out what you want before you act on anything. Don’t cheat. Talk with your boyfriend and if he’s really not who you want to be with, be honest to him. That’s the best way to go.

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