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what do I do about my jealous friend?

I have this friend I’ve known since 4th grade but weve kind of grown apart this year up until about a month ago.this guy she went out with and I started talkingg and it turns out her like me.before I really got to know him she told me she still <3s him and asked me to say no if he ever asked me out.not knowing him I (stupidly)said sure.now I really like him and he really like me.we text all the time and totally flirt wih eachother.I feel bad going behind her back to see him,but one of my friends raised a good point when I was talking about how the girl is all “buddybuddy” with me since I started talkingto him.she told me that it was so I wouldnt go behind her back. im really confused.I feel guilty for going behind her back,but I really want to see him. plus I never get to spend anytime with him because hes always really quiet and awkward around other people.whenever I actually get some alone time with him,something happens and one of us has to go or something. help me!im so confused!I don’t know what to dooo:( &sorry for the length!

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If she is not dating him, she doesn’t have a claim on him anymore. If her friendship pattern has changed since you started talking to him, its probably because she is trying to prevent it. Ultimately you have to choose between them. There is nothing you can say or do that is going to make her change her mind. If you do start dating him, you should explain it to her. She probably will be pretty mad though.

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