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What do I do when my family argues to much.
I could not, from the main question, tell anything about the type of arguments you are asking about. and I don't understand how anyone else could either. with all respect, amblessed, you seem to automatically assume that rockangel3000 has parents that want the best and that the arguments arise from a lack of respect from rockangel3000. while many times that is the case, it might not be this time. are the parents arguing with each other? are they abusive to rockangel3000? I didn't read anything in the short question that implies that they care. just as I didn't read anything that stated that they don't. we all want loving parents but it is naive to assume that it is the child's fault. in many cases it is not. to rockangel3000- just do the best you can. if you can look at yourself and truly know that this is not due to lack of respect from you, then there is a problem. if you are being a jerk and the result is arguing, then change your behavior. but if your parents are being the jerks, please speak to an adult that you trust. a teacher, a friend's parent, an older sibling, someone. if it is just regular run-of-the-mill arguing, then get used to it. there isn't much that you can do to change it. life is about being true to yourself. being the best person that oyu can be. treating yourself and others with respect, sometimes even when they don't deserve it. good luck. I've been there.
Hope this helps... Growing up is very difficult—for both you and your parents. They remember a little bundle of joy that they held and nurtured as a baby and now they see a budding adult. These days, children face things and know about things that their parents would never have imagined at the same age. The teenagers of today look older, act older and want to be older than their counterparts did just 20 years ago. It is the desire of all parents for their children grow up in the way that they should go (loving, caring, respectful, and being of good solid character). It is necessary that you truly understand that your parents have your best interests at heart. They will withhold privileges, set limits, and raise you to the best of their ability (neither they nor you are perfect), but be Thankful - They Care - many, many, many don't. Ask them for guidance and seek to understand what truly motivates their decisions. One of the best ways to prove your maturity and prove that you are ready for more trust is to be respectful of your parent’s wishes and accept their guidance. Learn how to communicate love, honor, and respect to each other.
Amblessed, not everything is a child's fault. Would you tell the child that's getting hit that it's their fault? What about the one that's not fed every night? Is it his fault too? The parents could be the cause. Honestly, not ALL parents have respect for their children. But you assume they do. Step out of your church and take a look at the world. It's not perfect, parents can be disrespectful, parents can be the cause of a family being torn apart. You can't keep blaming kids. We aren't all bad. And at times, we're the only ones who see any good in the world.
Also, you should try ansering the actual question. Because your answer didn't.
Now that I've got that out.
rockangel3000, when they start fighting go somewhere if you can. Go for a walk, go to the playground, or even to a friend's house. If you can't go anywhere go to your room. Don't try to stop them, because it won't work. Don't do anything that could make them fight more. Your best bet is to stay out of the way. But like trickynick said, if your not the problem, then something is wrong. But if you ARE the problem, just smarten up a little.
If you have a paint ball gun empty it and stand at the bottom, or top, of the stairs, depending on what floor they're on, and just pull the trigger. It'll be loud and echo off the walls and they'll be like "What the heck?" and then you can yell "SHUT UP!"
Or once when my family was arguing I just walked into the room and was like "HEY! SHUT UP!" and then they calmed down.
Just stay the hell out of it. thats what I do. I dont think you can get them to stop. they just gotta realize what theyre doing. you can try to point it out to them but just dont seem like an enemy to anyone or they might get mad at you. make sure your position stays nuetral, you dont want them mad at you.
listen to music to zone out from all the drama that's what I used to do
Make an excuse to go somewhere else.
