Trying to figure out if she just wants to be a friend, or more

There is a young lady I met in college who seemed to show some real interest in my field of passion. (A form of art I will not go into)

She tried to give me her number so she could help me with future projects, and I was too nervous (she’s stunningly beautiful and very nice), so I said “Oh, I’ll think about it,” and darted off to go have a panic attack. (I’m not good with girls)

A few weeks later, I was chit-chatting with her (she started the conversation this time as well) and this time I asked for her number, and she gave it to me under the pretense that she would help me out with some art projects over the summer and next semester.

After minor confusion (she accidentally gave me the wrong number), she called me back and was very sweet in leaving me a message, apologizing for giving me the wrong number, and telling me to call her over the summer to talk about the project and/or anything else.

I’m trying to figure out if she just likes me as a friend, or is attracted to me as more than a friend (which I find hard to beleive- I try to be a nice guy, but I’m not very good-looking).

She said she deffinitly wants to help out during the summer, and also said to call her if I wanted to chat about things related to my art passion or “anyting I wanted to talk about”, and my best friend think she is trying to give me signals to talk with her because she likes me.

I like her very much as a friend, and I deffinitly do have a crush on her because she just seems so perfect to me in every way, but I’m really out of it when it comes to dating/relationships. I’d like to be sure about it before I call her at the wrong time, or make any sort of advance like asking her out.

Should I try calling her every once in a while (like once a week) and get to know her using casual chit-chat about movies and college- stuff like that; should I space it out and only call her when I would need her help; or should I do something else?

It’s actually quite a hard situation.

Answer #1

She lives a few towns away, but it’s a small area, so it’s only like a 15 minute drive I’m guessing. Not too long, but not too close, either. I don’t drive unfortunatly (never bothered to learn how, but am planning on getting my permit and taking the test over the next few months), but I think she does.

I was thinking of chatting with her for the next few weeks casually over the phone, using the project as a way of getting to know her. If she seems interested in more than the project, awesome, if she seems interested in just the project, then I’ll know not to advance any further.

I was debating seeing if she wanted to come to the movies with me next week (I usually go with my best friend on Fridays) to chat with after and maybe get some coffee before hand and talk about the project and the last semester, to get to know her more. Although I don’t know if she’d be into seeing what I was going to see.

Answer #2

Keep calling her in my opinion. Start hanging out with her a little more often usually with her friends and yours, try to get more physical, play fighting wrestling tickling having your arm over her shoulders or simply touching her every once in a while. It’s the only way you can tell her that you like her secretly. if she gets the message either she’ll go for a kiss, ask you out, tell you how she feels about you…or she won’t do anything, but you won’t have to go through hardcore rejection and feeling down for a few days.

Answer #3

how far away does she live? if not far away, go take her to the movies. from my experience, when girls want your number they either 1) need something or 2) want to go out with you. since she’s helping you, its the latter

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