Should I talk to my dad?

First off, I’m so sorry u were raped. But even though ur dad wasn’t there for u and stuff, that doesn’t mean he doesn’t care. Forgiveness is the key u kno? Atl east he’s tryin to get back in your life because some parents don’t even wanna try to contact their kids and thats bad. I’m here if u need me Ok?

I think I’d get his mailing address and tell him - This is the truth… - I want no more discussion of this matter - if you choose to accept the truth, depending on your actions/demeanor towards me, maybe we can work on a Healthy father/daughter relationship - if not, there is no need to cover old ground - I will accept 1 phone call from you - if you’re not civil/loving/caring towards me, I will immediately hang up and consider the matter closed - your choice…that’s what I would do, I wish you the very best !!

I would firstly like to say I am horribly sorry to hear about your own brother rapeing you… this is wrong and nobody deserves that. I never met my real dad either you know, my whole life he was never thier and the only memories I had of him was him drunkenly beating my mom and guess what?? I too met him again when I was 14 and he was nice to me but I just “ didnt really want a dad “… When I was 16 my father died. He had a heart attack and all though I didnt know him well and he made bad decisions I regret not spending more time with him everyday. I never thought in my whole life that I wanted or needed my father and then when I found out he had died I realized that all along all I ever wanted was a father to teach me, protect me and hold me but I was always just to stubron to let him in. . . I think it would be a good idea to give him another chance but you should definitly talk to him about the horrible rape incident and do not allow yourself to be around the guy who did it again.

Tell him how you feel about him. It will make you feel a lot better.

And I agree with’’bobannen’’, at least his making the effort. And at least he’s showing you that he wants to get to know you. Now is better than never. Right?

I was very lucky to have two loving parents who provided me with as much security as I needed when I was a child - and I had a very happy childhood. It’s only my adult life that has been totally screwed up since about age 20, through no fault of theirs.

It is sad to read of accounts like yours, and it is difficult to know what to say. If your father really cared about you, he wouldn’t refuse to accept the possibility that you were raped by his son.

It is hard to know where you can turn to for advice, and however good this site is, it probably isn’t enough for the advice and help you need.

just be honest and do what you want you know you dont have to tell him just tell him how you feel about it and everything n everything but yea i dont know what else lol