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I've been married for almost a decade and I dont know if I made the right decision of marrying him.. I know he loves me so much and he's been loyal to me ever since but with him I am emotionally battered.. He often say words that are painful on my part, he's so insensitive and doesnt mind if he's hurting one's feelings regardless of who and what the situation is. I am the one embarrassed for his actions and I dont want my kids to inherit that kind of attitude. He's caring and very protective over me and my kids but too arrogant insensitive over others... I love him so much but sometimes I wanted to leave but I cant.. My kids and my family and my in laws are so close with each other and many says that I'm so lucky that both my and his family are getting along so well, and I dont want to ruin that. I tried talking to my husband about this but he just ignore me and said that I'm being so dramatic. I wanted to leave but I dont have the resources to do so because I dont a steady income to provide for myself and my kids.. I've been carrying all this burdens for some time now and I dont know if I can still live with it... What stops me from leaving is my love for him and my kids, I dont want my kids to suffer of having no father and a broken family even if it means a hell on my part...
Dear trinity17, Have you tried counselling? You need to approach this with the intent that you have done everything you can to keep this relationship intact. It takes a lot more than this to leave a marriage so I will assume there is more to it. When he is rude to someone you simply say this isn't my opinion...he's on his own with that. Do this every time you are in his company and he is rude. Never say you can't get out of a relationship...it boils down to you don't want to "really". Stats will show children are much more stable and happy in a one parent family without argument and tension. There are many resources: social assistance, family resources etc. So I think you need to reexamine this realationship...is it just his rudeness to others, is there more to it? What can you do to change the situation. You are responsible to take action in your problems and start looking at what you can do not how he is the problem. Sue...good luck
It's impossible for you to have been married for almost a decade. You're only 24 or 25. Which means you would've had to get married when you were 14-16. And without your parents' permission, you can't legally do that.And I seriusly doubt that your parents would give you permission for that. So please tell me how old you REALLY are so that I can give you advice.
The question is that what life you could establish (for you and for your kids) without your present husband and his family.
