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Should I stay? Or go?

I have been with my boyfriend for a year, he is a beautiful person inside and out. As a child he was sexually abused by his step dad,it has caused us to have issues with sex. He knows he needs help,but wont seek help,says he cant afford it. We hope to one day move in,but unless he gets help I feel we wont last.I dont know how to convince him to go, I feel if I leave him I will be turning my back on him after he confined in me. I am torn and dont know what I should do???

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Answer #1

If you really love him, then you will stick with him and try to help him yourself. I was molested by someone when I was younger. It made my sex life with my now husband (as he was the first guy I ever allowed to do anything) very difficult at first. But I told him what happened, and he worked with me through everything. There are still a few things that are uncomfortable to me, but everything is getting better. I never got professional help or anything. I just had my husband. He helped me get through everything. Just sit him down and ask him what you can do to help. We just took things very slow. Anything I was uncomfortable with we would stop. And we would go to that point until I was comfortable, and then go a little more. We have a healthy sex life now, and didn’t at first. So try to talk to him, and help him. But if you aren’t happy with him at all and don’t love him, then just leave.

Answer #2

u shuld stay and let him know your alwaysz gunna b dere for him and support his decision..over time hell cum around and hell see that if he don’t get help he might lose the best thing that ever happend to him…

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