Should I stand up to my mom?

I’m afraid to stand up to my mom & she cannot talk to me about deep things especially if it has anything to do with my dad. she’s making me go to counseling again so I can talk to the lady. Then the lady tells my mom. Then my mom tells the lady to tell me. Then the lady suggests my mom stay & talk & I go. After the lady talks to my mom & wants to see her back but not me my mom stops taking me until she finds a new lady to take me to when there’s a problem. I don’t like the problems that my mom has & I don’t like that she treats me like I’m still 4. I don’t like that she’s always angry at my dad & won’t let me use or keep the new computer I worked 3 years to get. I’ll be having a birthday soon & I would like to fly to see my dad without having to go the police station for my dad to pick me up. it’s getting embarrassing & there’s always some thing bad that happens when my mom drops me off or picks me up. my dog even barks at her. He thinks she’s the stranger who always takes me from him. He doesn’t understand why I don’t get to live with him & he barks at me when I’ve been gone for a long time. I don’t know how to talk to my mom so she stops fighting with dad when I go to visit him or whenever he calls.

Answer #1

I assume your mom and dad already have or are getting a divorce. It is unfortunate that they cannot still live together, because they are still your mom and dad, and I’m sure you love them both. Sometimes without meaning to kids are used against the other parent. I hope that is not happening to you.

In either case sit down and talk with both your parents about what you just expressed in your question. I would ask both your counselor and your mom why you can’t be in counseling together and talk things out together. I can’t tell how old you are, but from what you wrote, you willl be able to put forth your thoughts and discuss the problems with her. Don’t raise your voice or get angry, just talk to her.

Good luck with this, but do it. Both your parents still love you, it just may not show through at times.

But sit down with both your parents and in a calm and cool mood and talk to them about the issues you’ve set forth above.

Answer #2

I would confront her if I were u, I had a similar situation and I had to confront my mom, now I can tell her just about anything and were the best of friends… I cant say my problems completely cleared up tho:/

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