Should I get involved with a man who is in a relationship?

There is guy that I really want to be with, and he always tells me that he wants to be with me too. We have done some stuff together, but he haw a girlfriend, who knows nothing about us. He won’t break up with her even though he is constantly talking about how much he can’t stand her and how much he wishes he was with me. Why doesn’t he break up with her? Is he just using me? Am I being a bad person by doing things with him when he has a girlfriend? Help me please!

Answer #1

Of course do not cheat! You should never cheat on anyone…even if they do it to you first. Be a kind and caring person. If you are thinking of doing this, you obvisouly dont care for the person. If you want out that bad, just end things and move on to someone else.

Answer #2

If he ditches her, go for it.

Otherwise you're being used.

If you can deal with being the "other woman" and all the crap that goes along with that, then go get laid

Answer #3

It sounds to me that the attraction is purely sexual between you both and you only question what you're doing because all your life you're told its the wrong thing.

If you can live the outcome of you being the other woman and all of its reprocussions then go ahead.

If he does leave her for you; how do you know he won't leave you for another girl? How is any man going to trust you in a relationship if you're willing to mess around with a man that has a girlfriend?

Think about those questions and remember that a relationship without trust never lasts.

Answer #4

What do you want us to say? That you are a bad person and you will burn in hell? That you should cheat with him?

My saying "I really want to be with", I am understanding that you want to have sex together.

If you have no hangups about sex, fuck his brains out and see how it goes (of course, use protection). If you do have hangups (ie. sex is bad, my mother told me!), then leave the bastard.

Many people fit in the middle, they just want a little something without hurting anyone else. See if you can make that balance somehow.

Answer #5

If you were the one being cheated on, would you still see this guy the same way. If he was serious about starting a relationship with you, he wouldnt have a girlfriend instead you’d be the only girl in his life. It looks to me like he’s using you, but its your choice and you’ve got to be satisfied with it.

Answer #6

u better not cuz u’ll end up in breaking up wth him or his girl will break up with him .it wud cause troubles

Answer #7

I’m sure he’s just using you. If he’s not with you, then it’s obvious he loves his girlfriend and not you. If you want to be involved with a guy who is dating someone, that’s your choice. I’d stay away though.

Answer #8

I would stay away, he might be using you.

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