does it make you shallow to dump someone for their wieght?

To be happy with your partner you have to accept and like the majority of them as a person. If weight is an issue for you then it is okay to break up with somebody because of it. Most people will disagree with me, they will say ‘you have to love somebody for them, and not what they look like’ and I do agree with that to an extent, but you have to like him all around to stay happy together. To not be okay with his weight is the same as not liking guys with brown eyes, or finding blonde hair unattractive. We all have different tastes and opinions when it comes to finding future partners. It just so happens that you find your boyfriend’s weight a concern and would rather be with a healthy guy. To me, that’s the same as you asking ‘Does it make you shallow to not want to be with a guy because he has long hair?’. We are all different and like/dislike different things. It doesn’t make you shallow. If, for example, you were complaining about having to hang out with a friend that you don’t like because they are overweight, then that would be shallow.

Just a little bit…

i didnt just dump him because he is fat the thing is that he wasnt always fat he used to be normal but he gained a lot of wieght in only a week part of it is from drinking and his body is too soft compared to how it used to b and im p!ssed that he is fat cuz he is lazy he never does anything and he he is a bit old so that is the other reason and i tried to be as non shallow as possible and i tried to bare with it but im so easily grossed out by it

that makes sence :)

oooookkay…. deffently not shallow then. Honestly that is a very good reason to brake up with some one, because of the change.

theres more too it i explained it all in my comment

its not shallow… if your not physically attracted to someone thats a reason to break up with them. physical attraction is an important part in a relationship

Had it just been solely on his weight, I may have said yes. However, reading your another comments, it’s obvious the guy had other problems that would be difficult to deal with. If the guy was lazy and hds a drinking problem, he probably wasn’t the cream of the crop.

In fairness, he may have been dealing with problems in his life. However, that doesn’t mean you should be dragged down with him. If he wasn’t comfortable talking to you about his problems and instead drowned his sorrows in alchohol, it obviously wasn’t a very strong relationship. In fairness to you too, if you were no longer sexually attracted to him, it probably wouldn’t have worked anyway. Although some people don’t like to admit it, physical attraction is important too. Not the MOST important, god no, but it does help.

Excuse some of the spelling and grammatical mistakes there. >> It’s late at night and I have a cold, so obviously I’m not thinking straight.

not shallow.gotta agree..i would dumb him if hes lazy not caring about his health

I agree totally. If one is to gain weight during a relationship and makes no effort to lose it, despite them knowing that it is an issue to you, then how can they complain about you dumping them? Allowing yourself to put on weight in a relationship and ignoring your partner’s needs/ wants is a sign of disrespect in my opinion.

If I had spoken to my partner long and hard and many times about it and had noted it as an issue for our relationship, then I would consider ending the relationship too if I felt like I was being ignored. As long as you spoke to your partner about it, then I see nothing wrong with you calling it off.

well…it depends..if its coz u r not satisfied wid da sex life..o..may b coz u r sporty n dat sum1 cant cop up wid u ….well may b den u got a point but oderdan dat…i think all it matters is if de odr person is caring loving n loyal to u….dis aaplies to frnds too its shallow to dump a person for their overweight….if its a frnd…

sex has nothing to do with it he is to old 4 me to have sex with and i dont play sports but i do skateboard and go jogging and stretch alot he and just sits on his ass eating chips and drinking beer. i dont have a problem with wanting a can of beer every now and then but he drinks so much without excersizing and it gets on my nerves and he is starting to smell

yea u did so i guess it wasnt just cuz of his weight seems like u were really over it u kno but if it wud have been cuz of da weight i wud have thought it was shallow cuz sumtimes accidents happen wen da person unwillingly loses a part of their body but dey deserve love n if u love him u wud stick wit him but iin ur case u didnt love him n idnt blame u u just get tired n love goes away wit it

yea u did so i guess it wasnt just cuz of his weight seems like u were really over it u kno but if it wud have been cuz of da weight i wud have thought it was shallow cuz sumtimes accidents happen wen da person unwillingly loses a part of their body but dey deserve love n if u love him u wud stick wit him but iin ur case u didnt love him n idnt blame u u just get tired n love goes away wit it

when love comes it never asks about your weight or your height and never asks about how much money you have…for me this is the meaning of REAL love not other types of love but REAL …REAL…REAL

kindda depending on your weight too and how big or fat she is. you should be happy with who your with. but if you really want to find a different reason to cause that’s just mean

if ur happy ur happy if ur not ur not. but dont dump them because of their looks. u should have a good reason to stop loving them, unless ur just using them…

To be honest, I’d never go out with a fat girl. I’m not being rude, but there just not my type. Do what you feel is right,

It depends…. you must want to dump him cause he’s doing something wrong… weight might be a factor but it prob sn’t the only reason…. but if it is yeah… that’s kinda shallow.

you cold hearted self serving little judger YES OF COURSE IT MAKES YOU SHALLOW

Yes! You should love them for them! One exception though would be if they weighed sooo much and just refused to try to get in shape or just really lazy then ya maybe but it shouldn’t be their appearance you should think about it’s whats inside because you could have the most beautiful man on earth and him be an jerk and and treat you like horribly and never possibly be happy or you could have not so looking guy and be the most happiest person in the world it all depends on how their personality is and you should fall in love with them for them not their looks I’m not saying that all hot guys/girls or jerks or that all not so attractive people are nice. It can go either way but it’s the person you should love not their body.

yea bc if you didnt like their weight then you should have never got with them

No. Just have high hopes, and pray that they’ll drop a few lbs out of spite.

they were skinny when i got with them

i dont think all the name calling is nessicari