How can I gain more self confidence?

hi, im asking how I can become more confident with myself. I always think bad about myself, like im ugly or too skinny and im always a really anxious and shy person, I have had this my whole life, being called shy and I dont have very many friends because of it… I am 19, so its about time I became independent and not rely on other people to make decisions for me.

some advice please!

Answer #1

yu’re beautiful no matter what anyone will say or d if I was as ld as you I’d make you my boo and I’d be you’r shawty too

Answer #2

Heres a easy way, I told my gorlfeiend to do this because she was the same way, thinking she was ugly, and stuff do this. Just see your self as beautiful, and who give a damn what people think, God made everybody beautiful in his eyes, so in other words you r beautiful also. Theres nuthing wrong with bein shy, I am to, till I get to know people, you know.. Just dont think your ugly, oranything think positive always, positive thoughts keep you happy, negative dont. Stay positive mind, and knowing you r beautiful and you’ll be good, promise you that.

Reall hope I help, sooo SMILE DAMMIT, LOL :-) :-P

Answer #3

Honey, everyone thinks they are ugly. There is always someone else out there who disagrees and thinks you are beautiful the way you are. I am really shy about that too. I find myself very ugly and I just hate myself for it. We can’t change the way we look. We are always going to be stuck with it. But its ok to think about that..but just don’t let it change you. What really counts is what is on the inside..not the outside. mmkay?

Answer #4

Confidence is something that comes from within ones self, its not really a personality trait. It comes with being happy with your self, I lacked in confidence most of my teenage life and due to an incident I re-evaluated my life and was able to sort my head out, accepting myself and becoming happy for the first time in years I must had. This in it’s self brought on new confidence. If someone puts you down with a comment just think and realise that they are just one out of the thousands of people that have seen you today alone, people walking/driving past and they may think something else all together then you can put into perspective that one persons opinion does not matter in the grand scheme of thigns. Out of 1000 people who pass you on the street etc. its one thats 0.1% its nothing really, so dont hold on to the bad jsut let it go and hold onto the good. And be sure to challenege yourself little challenges, Nothing major just maybe to talk to one person new a day or to get a job - I found getting a job most useful as on my first day I didnt speak to anyone and mumbled a lot to customers but by forcing myslf out of my comfort zone I had to adapt and then without realising it I was chatting to staff and customers freely and realised I had nothing to hide I was a person who had a place I have something to offer and it changed me

I know I’ve rambled on but I hope it helps

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