Saving a Friend From a Rotten Home

I have a friend that is turning 17 in November. She’s the goofy type who likes to mess around and act immature. Unfortunately right now that’s affecting her in a negative way. Her stepmother is completely blind to the reality of things. My friend is the oldest girl in the family, she is quite mature, despite how she acts and they know that. Her stepmother has a daughter, who is 15, the same as age me. That daughter gets treated way better, despite the fact that she’s way less mature than my friend. She has her mother thinking she’s a shy person, while she’s the polar opposite of that. My friend was recently molested by her older half brother, and she couldn’t go to her parents, because they would’ve believed him over her. Instead, she came to us trying to see if there was anything we could do. Although most people would go to the police, because of everything, they would’ve told her parents and in the end, it wouldn’t have worked out. Her half brother would’ve gotten away with anything. Now, on another note. My friend often points out that she isn’t being treated fairly in comparison to her other siblings. When she points this out, her parents often call her pathetic, and tell her if she doesn’t like it then she can leave, but if she goes to leave, they ground her. They also threaten to kick her out often, but again, when she goes to leave, rather than grounding her, they tell her “It was to frighten you.” My friend can’t take it anymore, she wants out, and my family is willing to take her in, if she would be happier with us. Her parents don’t like us because she likes spending more time over here, because we treat her like part of the family. We’re extremely loving and caring for her. Because she is currently sixteen, turning seventeen in November, we are looking for a way for her to leave and be able to live with us. Unfortunately we are leaving our current residence for another state in about a week now. We have that little time to figure something out. If anyone has any legal advice, please let me know.

I’d appreciate not hearing the usual,”You should stay out of it.”, “She should talk to her parents,” and stuff of that sort. I have had her try just about everything you can think of that keeps the local officials out of it. If you would like more information you can send me a message, I’d be happy to give you as much information as possible if you may be able to help.

Answer #1

it sounds as if you have yourself and a postion where you feel you have to be involved. get nvolved, thats fine. have her lve with you. but don’t thin for one minute that whatever you are offring s gong to fx everything.

I understand you feel you should do someting, and you will do what you will. but don’t thin it will be easy. offering someone a home s totally dfferent to te realty of it. legally, (in the UK) if someone s 16, theres little the parents can do, however, how are your family gong to support her financially? it is unlikely that the parents will subsidise this venture.

in addition, whether you want to hear it or not, your efforts would be best laid in at least trying to, in an unbased way, mediate between your friend and her family. that would be a really rewarding way to try and sort this stuation out. I would do this first, ten at least IF she DOES live with you, you can honestly defend your actions, and rightly claim to resolving them yourself befor drastic action, such as moving out.

good luck, tread carefully

Answer #2

once she is 17 if she runs away the police cant take her home if they get called I dont know how much this will help but I hope it does maybe research on google local laws and such

Answer #3

once again, I have a new keyboard and it sems to be ommitting some of the keys, I think I need to get used to it. so excuse missing letters… :O)

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