When is the right time to move in/get married?

I am dating this guy and we’ve been dating for about a month. we’ve talked about moving in and children and marriage on a platonic level, but it got me wondering…when IS the right time to move in with your boyfriend? when IS the right time to get married? i’m not sure on the ettiquette here. they say you should wait about 6 months to move in with a guy…is that true? i know it mostly depends on how i feel about it, but i was just wondering how long others think i should wait before i say “i do” or before i move in w/ him. thanks in advance.

Answer #1

Do what you feel is right and do not base your decision on the views of other people telling you not to do it. In my opinion if you feel a month of being together is long enough to move in then who is anyone else to judge… base your decision on the voice of your heart, not the voices of others. Every situation is different so no one can really tell you how long to wait unless they know every aspect of your situation… good luck!

Answer #2

The longer you wait, odds are, the more likely it will last…. while this is not true in ALL cases, from my experience of seeing others do it it seems to be this way. I knew my man for 3 years before I ever tried to live with him and it's worked out wonderfully…. as for marriage… I dunno bout that yet.

Answer #3

Statistically you will have a better chance of getting divorced if you live together first. How old are you? Are you both done with collage? If your done with school then you should date for a year before getting engaged. If your not done with school then date as many people as possible before you graduate.

Answer #4

rule of thumb should be to see someone through all four seasons before deciding to marry them. do you know his family, his friends? have you seen him in all moods? how does he handle stress and anger? a month is not long enough to really know a person…you are still in the honeymoon phase. you are still young and have plenty of time. if you plan to spend your life with this person, what’s a year?

Answer #5

Prepare now for a future together maybe. Plan later. Get finished with college, get ur lives together. Find financial stability in the world and give him time to. Think bout ur possible kids' lives. Dont rush. When u jump into things, u often find that its easier to begin to resent everything. U knew him for a month or so u said? I dont feel that is sufficient. There is no reason to do that. Move in when u guys are realisticall considering marriage or a future together. Right now focus on preparing.

Answer #6

this is in response to darlingheart. for ur information, i dropped out of college due to money problems and am not returning. he already owns his own business and is copartner in another. he has financial stability and my dream job is to be a stay at home mom and homemaker. believe me, i've thought about my kid's lives. i know what i want for them and for my family. and i'm sorry but just because i've only known scott for a month, does not mean that's not sufficient. we actually are realistically considering marriage AND a future together. i was just wondering how long is should wait and if i should trust myself to decide or not. and so i thank you for ur advice sorry if i offended u.

Answer #7

Well it sounds like you are both old enough to get married. The best advise I can give you is go slow. Marriage is a bigger deal them people realize and the longer you can date someone before making a serious commitment like marriage or children then the better chance you have of making it last. I am going on 13 years of marriage and it is tough. Just let things happen , don't be in a rush.

Answer #8

I am 21. I'll be 22 in march. i've done the whole dating thing and the friend with benefits thing and even tried women for awhile. i'm ready for a long term relationship and i'm ready to start my life with someone. i know what i want, ppl say i'm a strong-willed girl. i guess i am. he didnt go to college (btw he's 27) and i dropped out of college. i'm trying to go back, but i have to get enough money first. i hope i answered all ur questions.

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