Long story short. I met a girl who had a boyfriend. he wasn't there for her and I wanted to be. We started seeing eachother and we kissed and told eachother how much we liked eachother. The word LOVE was never brought up it was always just genuine fondness. She told me she wanted to be with me over her boyfriend but didn't want to lose his friendship. all of a sudden she got too busy with her job and stopped talking to me. She said she needed space and i got scared. I started messaging her a lot and it probably creeped her out. Finally she told me "i love my boyfriend and I don't know why". I thought it was because they had sex and she thinks he's the one because she sure didn't give a fuck about him when we were making out. Anyways. After that the messages I sent were more apologetic. And more towards the fact that "im not a texting psychopath. I just fucking care about you". Im completely honest with her in my messages because I don't bullshit anything. I told her she could block me or unfriend me if she hates the messages that I send but I'm just trying to help myself by expressing my feelings. She never blocked me. And I k ow she read the message because my phone tells me. Anyways. She got involved with me because this self admiting cynicist boyfriend of hers hurt her. And he's also leaving for college. How should I act as of right now? I want her to realize I've always been here for her and all she's done was pushed me away. In the end, I'd like to be with her. But is it true that if I suddenly act as if I don't care, she will realize? Give me all your thoughts please.
From the description you've given, what came to my mind was that she probably just used you. I'm not sure, but it seems like she's just leading you on for nothing. I really think you should stop texting her and stuff. The other thing I noted was the fact that you said "....Self admitting cynical boyfriend of hers hurt her....." I don't know but maybe he somehow found out about you and her and threatened her? Again, I'm only a 15 year old and I'm just writing what I think. None of this could be true (and i sure hope it isn't.) But the main thing is that I think you should get over her. You said she "suddenly" started getting busy with work and that she told you she loved her boyfriend. For whatever reasons she did this, you should just let it go. It was wrong of her to get involved with you when she was already in a relationship in the first place, but you shouldn't do anything to break their relationship either. Sooner or later, she probably will realize it. What I think you should do, is to ask her ONE last time who she'd choose. Him or you? If she chooses him, you need to respect that and get over her or just be a good friend for her, but if she chooses you, well, that's what you wanted. If she DOES choose you, if I were in that kind of situation, I'd ask her to break up with her other boyfriend. It's wrong to get involved with anyone when you're already in a relationship and even worse to tell the second person that she doesn't want to lose her friendship with the previous guy, that's why she hasn't broken up with him yet. Being a girl, I'll tell you this, the "don't-want-to-lose-the-friendship" thing is absolute cr.ap. She already lost her friendship with him when she got involved with you. Its just a matter of time before the truth comes out and she looses both of you.
I hope this helped.
This girl is bad news. Being involved with you makes her a cheater. Do you really think she won't do the same to you if she gets tired of you? She probably just wanted the attention from you, but she still wants to be with her boyfriend. Let her go already, she isn't worth it.
And I agree with Iffy. She got involved with you when she was already in a relationship with this guy, so she probably will end up doing the same thing when you're in a relationship with her. Life Iffy said, let her go. She's not worth it.