Well, there is your perception of reality which is shaped by many factors, and then there is the what is really happening. For instance I was a victim for a long time because I blamed my alcoholic parents and chaotic home life for my outcomes later on, including my own alcoholism. For the last 8 years I have been sober and have learned to not be a victim, but to take responsibility for my life. Through this my perception of reality has shifted substantially. The difference is a new pair of glasses, or a different way of looking at things. We realize or "make real" the environment around us according to what we know. Fascinating. Dr. Carl Young had a theory about this that I believe he reffered to as a "collective Conscious". He theorized that when we were born we had an infinite grasp on the universe. We were intellectually unobscured, but through out our lives, from day one, we slowly build, and have built, barricades to this infinite source of knowledge. In searching for the quest for spiritual truth, some believe they "uncover" this "pipeline" of knowledge. But really they are changing their perceptions, paridigms. Amazing. What an amazing question.
With our concept making apparatus called "mind" we look at reality through the ideas-about-reality which our cultures give us. The ideas-about- reality are mistakenly labeled "reality" and unenlightened people are forever perplexed by the fact that other people, especially other cultures, see "reality" differently. It is only the ideas-about-reality which differ. Real (capital-T) True reality is a level deeper that is the level of concept.
We look at the world through windows on which have been drawn grids (concepts). Different philosophies use different grids.
According to a dictionary reality is: -the state or quality of being real. -resemblance to what is real. -a real thing or fact.
it's this maze of pain and questions
Reality is the original Rorschach.
open your eyes and youll see
But what's real?