Reaching an agreement on the baby thing?

I want kids badly in the future but the man that I love dearly doesnt want them. He wanted to get snipped when he was with his x but she talked him out of it, I dont have to worry abotu asking him not to because he told me that he wouldnt anyways. The problem is tha tI realyl want kids, he doesnt he looks at them as a reason we cant do allt he things like traveling and this and that. I have wanted a baby since I was in highschool and was trying to figgure out how to have one then. Not to mention I have had a couple of misscarriages as well. Any ideas on how to come to terms with not having kids, or helping him maybe change his mind?

Answer #1

I would sit down and have a long talk with him about this. You need to let him know that this is something you really want. Let him know that you understand his reasons to not but your mind wont be changed. Ask him if he would agree to do as annonymouz said and travel a few years and then slow down and have a child. If he does not want to do this then maybe this relationship is not going to work. Because you deserve to have the children that you want. Good luck and God Bless!

Answer #2

well I really think that if you want kids that badly and he doesnt maybe hes not the one for you…or maybe you shouldnt at the fact that you have already had a couple of miscarriages(sorry) maybe thats a sign that your body isnt ready…But I hope that you can reach an agreement with your boyfriend…

Answer #3

I want kids 2 but my situations dif. we both kind of want em maybe not now but hes 18 im 15 so we have 2 wait. give him time maybe he will cahnge his mind. or maybe hes around a bunch of screamin babies and that could b why he dont want em

Answer #4

well I think that I agree with both your reasons. he wants to go travelling freely without pakage, so why not go travelling for a few years do what you need to and then think about kids. its not the end of the world if you have to wait a few years. tell him that you can still go travelling and when he has seen the things he wants to then he will feel empty when he cant have a family of his own. his family will stop with him, if your gettin this… and jus remember theres no pressure you have all the time in the world to have kids, but you cant go backpacking with kids and its best to go when your younger. so this way your both gettin what you both want (comprimise is what springs to mind)…oh and if you feel the relationship is strong enough to last that long…:)

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