Should i keep my baby?

im 16 and pregnant should I keep the baby or give it up to another family?

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ANSWER #1 of 68

I THINK you SHUD DO WHAT'Z BEST FOR THE BABY. IF YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO GIVE THE BABY PROPER CARE THAT HE/SHE NEEDS I WOULD SUGGEST THAT ADOPTION BE THE BEST THING FOR THE BABY'S SAKE.

DON'T DO ABORTION IF you R THINKIN THAT. THE BABY HAS A RITE 2 LIVE.


ANSWER #2 of 68

dont b stupid keep it or get an abortion!!!

Havein a baby
ANSWER #3 of 68

pesonally I would keep the chid I mean because you never know it mite b the only child you get to have but I wud think of the consequences to it as well

I am 15 do you think I should give up my baby?
ANSWER #4 of 68

I think keeping your baby is a lovely idea I have had 3 miscarages myself and would do banything for a baby dont give up what could be your first and last you can balways get help from family and friends good luck xxx

Can my parents take my baby away if I'm 13?
ANSWER #5 of 68

I think you should keep your baby that would make you more responableand trustworthy your the one who carried this whole time you should be the one to keep it

wht is a good age 2 have a baby
ANSWER #6 of 68

Hi Sweetie, I just read your question and my advise is to look at your life, your surroundings, your mate, your family. Is this what you want to do? If it is, then go for it! If not, there are so many people including myself who can't have children that would love to have one. If you are happy in your life and you have weighed all the pros and cons and you can bring this little person into the world as a productive, caring human being, then keep him/her. Ask your HIGHER POWER what to do?

If the parents are underage, who has rights to take a baby?
ANSWER #7 of 68

I think you should keep the baby!!
being a teenage mum isnt that bad (it will be hard work, but tis worth it when you first hear your baby say mummy or daddy, and seeing them walk for the first time is soo amazing), also if you give it up you will regret it in the future!!
My mum and sis both were/are teenage mums, and they dont regret keeping the baby at all!!

I have a baby girl named selena and im having another baby girl !
ANSWER #8 of 68

if you cant keep and care for your child then adoption would be your best bet. there are tons of loving couples looking to adopt!!!

do you think I should have a baby?
ANSWER #9 of 68

Hi,

I am really sorry about the situation you are in I know it is tough.

Love,
MIchelle

Marriage and babies
ANSWER #10 of 68

im sorry ur to young to have a baby give her up to a nice family member

Can a parent force a child to get an abortion or give their baby up ?
ANSWER #12 of 68

You don't just give up a baby. a baby is a living human still so you wouldn't be giving the baby up you would (probrobbly) be giving the baby a better chance to do every thing that a normal kid should do.


ANSWER #13 of 68

hey, if you think that u are ready for the responsability of a baby and think u can handle it and want to be the best mother of ur child u can be keeo it if u dont or u doubt it hink about it but if u ewant it keep it


ANSWER #14 of 68

my boyfriend just found his real mom..
hes mad at her for leaving him.
and she feels guilty for putting himup.
im just sayin, it may be the good thing rite now..
but ull regret it later.

but its your baby hun.
listen to your heart.


ANSWER #15 of 68

I Agree With lingerie_lady. Don't Do Somethibg You Would Regret In Life. My Cousin && Her Boyfriend Brother Was Adopted && They Felt Like They Were Not Loved A Lot Of Times,They Always Questioned Themselves.Think About You Would Feel Your Parents Gave You Up. Be Honest Now. But Keep Your Child.You Laid In The Bed Now It's TiME 2 Make It


ANSWER #16 of 68

girl, wut a stupid question! Keep her/him! Do ur parents know? how far along r u? u'll be a great mother, honey. keep the baby, and check out the song "Papa don't Preach", by Madonna. ; ).


ANSWER #17 of 68

i think that you should keep your baby cuz u are going to regret wat u are doing as you get older then older when u get older u are goingt ot think is your first child and how u gave it up. KEEP THE BABY


ANSWER #18 of 68

i agree to give up the baby, i know you love her/him, but you shouldn't even be pregnant at 16, so another family should be happier with her, because i can tell you feel guilty.


ANSWER #19 of 68

personally i agree with everyone here. give the baby up, it's too much drama for a 16 year old. but make sure you give it to a nice family!


ANSWER #20 of 68

OK. STOP SAYING YOUR GIVING IT UP PEOPLE. SHE ISN'T. SHE IS GIVINGTHE BABY
A BETTER LIFE IF SHE PUTS IT UP FOR ADOPTION. YOU HAVE DREAMS PROBLY. IF YOU WANT THEM PUT THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION THEN. KEEP IN TOUCH WITH YOUR KID SO YOU WILL STILL HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH THE CHILD. THOUGH.

I PUT MINE UP FOR ADOPTION HERE IS A RECENT PIC OF HOW HAPPY HE IS... WE ALWAYS TALK. AND HE LOVES ME HE TELLS ME. I FEEL COMPLETE. I GOT MY DREAMS. A CHILD WHO LOVES ME AND A GREAT LIFE AS A LAWYER AND A FIANCEE

DO WAT YOU THINK IS RIGHT


ANSWER #21 of 68

yes you should


ANSWER #22 of 68

KEEP YOUR CHILD. I AM A 41 YEAR OLD MOM OF FOUR, AND I HAD MY ELDEST CHILD AT AGE 20.


ANSWER #23 of 68

I would give the baby up. At 16 years old, there's just no way you can give a baby everything it needs and deserves.


ANSWER #24 of 68

I say keep it, because later on down the road, when you have the baby, you will not want to give it up! But its your choicwe, but I do commend you for not having an abortion!


ANSWER #25 of 68

Your baby is your baby i say you could keep it. If you didnt have the money i would give it up. OR if it had a bad father.


ANSWER #26 of 68

I agrre give the baby up so it will get the attention it needs and you will be able to continue your education with no distracttions!


ANSWER #27 of 68

hey...I was just wondering what happened?? did you keep the baby???


ANSWER #28 of 68

You should keep it becasue that is your own baby..


ANSWER #29 of 68

I think you should do what you feel is right.

if your going to keep the baby, make sure you have family support. without it you'll be desperate , believe me I've seen it before and I wouldnt wish it upon anyone.

however if your going to give the baby up, remember the concequences. in years time this baby could want to contact you.are you going to want to c them then, and what if they meet you once and never again after that.it will tear you apart.

think about it and do what is in your heart to do.dont listen to anyone else.listen to yourself.
if your parents dont know I would go and c your doctor.they can b a great help.

good luck

xxx


ANSWER #30 of 68

don't NEVER GIVE UP NOTHING SO PERESIOUS AS YOUR OWN FLESH AND BLOOD!!! ITS A BLESSING you EVEN HAVE A CHILD AND PLUS WHEN EVERYTHING IS SAID AND DONE YOU WILL GROW UP KNOWING THE MISTAKE you DONE BY KILLING IT!!!


ANSWER #31 of 68

I Got Pregnant At 14 to I kept my baby best decision I tihnk I have ever made in my whole life is the best feelingin the world becoming a mum Now I have mii baby girl Jayden 5 months old she is beautiful she meas so much to me and although I have lost my best fiends by having her istill wouldnt cage e for the worldun Keep The Baby You Aust By Waking Up To Jayden Chatting Awaii In Her Cot thenLooking Over And Seeing Her Cheeky Smile Makes My Day Is A Wonderful Feeling As Soon As You Hold That Precious Baby In Your Arms Im Sure You Will Make The Right Decision Good Luck Take Care x


ANSWER #32 of 68

keep the kid! I mean if I was in your situation and I was 16 I would keep it because you made the choice to have sex and now it would be the right thing to do, you can get a job at 16... you must also have your parents support though you cant do it alone! because moms always look out for you... I know a ton of girls who had kids young and they made it out of high school just fine... finish school but still keep the baby! you will regret it later on in life when your older if you do give it away... this ia a hard question though only you can decide for yourself and the baby. good luck!


ANSWER #33 of 68

Being a good mother doesn't matter you age.
You don't have to be a certain age to be an outstanding mother.
Go with what your heart says.
Its your baby.


ANSWER #34 of 68

Adopt it out. Continue your education. You're not ready for a child. Trust me, there are tons of couples out there ready and DYING to have kids but sadly cannot. Your baby would make them unbelievably happy.


ANSWER #35 of 68

I agree i would'nt want the girl that had my baby to give it up but its best for the child and you at that age.


ANSWER #36 of 68

I agree with lingerie_lady it is YOUR baby. You should keep it but, uh it is a heavy responsibility (sp?) Your already pregnant. Although besides that, you need to support
it and need a job and supplies. Thats kinda the hard part.

Good luck o:
Crystal xP


ANSWER #37 of 68

think it over you have a long time till the birth think everything over in you head talk to friends and family if you deside to give it up stay it touch it will hut a child to find they are adopted but if you keep in touch the child will know they had a loving family and will still know their mother was watchin over them to make sure of it


ANSWER #38 of 68

No i actually agree with the one about keeping the child. It will hurt you later on in the future about adopting the child. You wanted to have by haveing unprotect s*x so its time people realize responsibility. Its your child and you should take care of it because once the child grows up and ask its parents about its mother..what can they say..? That you gave up and could take care of your mistakes.
Life sucks but you have to face the consequences..dont you think?


ANSWER #39 of 68

OK. STOP SAYING YOUR GIVING IT UP PEOPLE. SHE ISN'T. SHE IS GIVINGTHE BABY
A BETTER LIFE IF SHE PUTS IT UP FOR ADOPTION. YOU HAVE DREAMS PROBLY. IF YOU WANT THEM PUT THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION THEN. KEEP IN TOUCH WITH YOUR KID SO YOU WILL STILL HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH THE CHILD. THOUGH.

I PUT MINE UP FOR ADOPTION HERE IS A RECENT PIC OF HOW HAPPY HE IS... WE ALWAYS TALK. AND HE LOVES ME HE TELLS ME. I FEEL COMPLETE. I GOT MY DREAMS. A CHILD WHO LOVES ME AND A GREAT LIFE AS A LAWYER AND A FIANCEE

DO WAT YOU THINK IS RIGHT


ANSWER #40 of 68

I keep coming back to your question and still I feel unable to answer it supportively. I do agree with morgan 3125, if you decide to "give up" your baby, that is not the correct term. You would be giving your baby and a couple a wonderful gift and everyone would be gaining something, therefore "giving up" nothing. Although, you would experience a great loss, you would still gain some peace knowing you allowed your baby to have an incedible life filled with love. This does not mean I think you don't love your baby. In fact, I feel mothers who make a decision to allow their babies to be adopted love their babies very much. The love mothers feel for their child is what makes it possible to make such an unselfish decision. I don't know your circumstances so it is hard to advise you. I also have not been in a such situation like yours. I believe that you will make the right decision for you and your baby. The imortant thing that a lot of people have said is this YOUR child. I don't know you, but I would support you either way you decided. If you decide to bless a family with your gift, in a few years when you PLAN to have a baby, I have no doubt you will be the best mother and any child of yours would be lucky to have you for a mother. Good luck.


ANSWER #41 of 68

I got pregnant when I was 18, just after I graduated highschool. I decided to keep my son and it's the best choice I have ever made in my life. There is absolutly nothing wrong with giving a baby up for adoption, it is a wonderful thing and a lot of familys really do want a baby to love and will take wonderful care of it. But it just wasn't for me. Now I realize that there is a difference between 16 and 18, a big one at that. But if you have the support of your family, and you are aware that no it wont be easy but it will be worth everything you will go through, then keep the baby.
It is entirely your choice, as long as the baby is loved and content, thats all that matters. And remember, money doesn't buy love. So if you are worried about finances don't, there are lots of things available to you and your baby. And don't let anyone tell you you don't deserve them because you do.
You will figure it out sweetie. It's hard, I have been there, but you will figure it out. You probably already have. Take care


ANSWER #42 of 68

It depends on your support system, do u have family that can help u in the time of need? Raising a baby is a tremendous amount of work. Not to mention the amount and level of responsibility you will need. Are you mature enough to take on raising a child? If the decisions that you made got u in this situation, maybe you arent quite ready to be responsible for yourself and a baby. Where is the father? You need to look at all of your options before making any hasty decisions. I dont agree with teenage pregnacy not one bit, however I would be lying if I sat here and told u that giving ur baby up is the best thing. There are lots of things to consider. What type of environment will u be bringing this baby into? Do u have a job? Will the father be in the childs life? Do u know who the father is? How old is he? What are u plans for the future? How ready are u to set aside ur own needs and wants for this baby?

Sit Down and Talk to Someone... There are crisis centers, and family planning centers in all states. You might want to go in and talk to someone.


ANSWER #43 of 68

It may be hard.. but you need to give your baby up.. it will be very hard on you to have a baby and have school.. maybe ask the new parents for visiting rights.. so you dont have to live without knowing what happen to your baby.


ANSWER #44 of 68

i think u shud keep ur baby, yeh u may b onli 16. but u could be a good mum. if ur thinkin of givin it up make sure u r 100% and doing it 4 the ryt reasons. my brother and his mrs has jus had a baby and shes onli 15, non of us thought she wud cope but she is gr8 wiv her babi she has proved everyone wrong, this baby is the making of her. if u decide to keep it im sure ull have support in all directions from your family an friends,
good luck hope u decide the ryt reason but do it for you and ur baby no1 else
xx


ANSWER #45 of 68

I Don't agree with what any of these people are saying. This is your baby and both of your lives. You have to remember this decision is totaly up to you and no one can ever change that. If you feel like you can actualy give the baby away after carrying it for nine months, then you're a lot stronger than most people. I must stress that givig a baby away at birth is the hardest thing a lady can do after it being part of you and being totaly dependant on you whilest you watch it progress.
Keeping the baby could hold further education off for about a year If you plan to go? This is no problem as you can always going college later after having the baby and getting back on your feet. I personaly have many friends who have just turned 16 and already have their own children and each and everyone of them has managed extremely well, also they are very happy with the decision they chose. They love their children ever so much and now couldnt imagine their lives without them. Now all of my friends are attending college and have a part time job earning some money for themselves and their babies.
Having a baby at 16 does not stop you from leading a normal life and will not make anyone think any different of you sweetheart. If you're worried about money I think you can claim benifits at 16 so that shouldnt be a problem. get back to me if you need any further help!

**Remember this is totaly up to you!
I hope evreythings okay honey,
Love kloe xx


ANSWER #46 of 68

well its really up to u there are open adoptions so u can still see your baby, you can keep it and probley struglle with trying to support your baby or u can have a closed adoption, trully if you want your baby to have the best life possible and still remain in your babys life, i suggest an open option.

}from your friendlly might be pregent older friend


ANSWER #47 of 68

well its trully up to you. theres open adoption, closed adoption, and then you can keep your baby and probley ending up depressed and struggling. an open adoption you could still see your baby and be part of there life. Its trully up to you and what you think is best for your child.


ANSWER #48 of 68

you should consider this , if u have the baby , and ur not getting supported , u will have 2 make money for u and the baby , and kids these days , cost A LOT of money , and u will need a house and everything ,but if u are getting supported , keep it because u will have money 4 the both of u and you 'll have a house 4 the both of u , i hope this helped , take care , and god bless you


ANSWER #49 of 68

Im in a similar situation as you are except that i am 18 and living away from home with my partner, I've found its a really tough decision to make and i really feel for you.
no one can really say whether or not your ready to raise a child, i know thirty-something year olds who let their kids run around the house while they smoke crack and f*** teenage boys then on the other hand i know of girls who have had a child at 14 and couldnt be happier, at the end of the day you know whats best- however hard the decision may be.
I, personally couldnt carry a child for 9 months and then let somone else raise them but whatever you decide i wish you good luck!
xo


ANSWER #50 of 68

I think you should keep your baby becuase your the one that went out and got pregnant. It will help make you more responsible. My friend got pregnant when she was 15 turning 16 and at first she wanted to give the baby up but then decided to keep him. Now she has more responcibility and she loves him very much. It helps if you have a supportive family, but it's not the end of the world if you don't. Also make sure the babies father pays if you guys are split up. My friend didn't get anything and now they are split up. Also the baby doesn't get to see his father much. So make sure the babies fathers name is on the birth cirtificate or your on your on. I support you dicision 100% even if you do give it up just what ever you do DON'T get an abortion.


ANSWER #51 of 68

Hi, Im 20 years old and I recently had a baby girl..shes 2 months now. Im not as young as you are but Im still pretty young and when I found out I was pregnant I felt sooo guilty. I was living at home with my parents, going to school, working, and taking care of my brothers while my parents worked. Believe me my parents were really surprised when they found out...and at first they were mad. I was also thinking of giving up the baby but I talked it over with my boyfriend and parents and we decided that we should try to make a life for the baby and understand I dont live in a wealthy house hold, its not like I had the money. Anyway, throughout my pregnancy I was really doubtful, wondering whether I was making the right decision. Will I be a good mom? Will I have everything the baby needs plus more? Than she came. I thought I was going to realize as soon as I seen her that I was right. But it didnt happen that way. I was really resentful of her while I was at the hospital. When it finally dawned on me that I really love her and im glad I never gave her up is when I was home and I had to take care of her, and spent so many long hours alone with her. Everytime she looks at me and smiles, when I see her searching for me in the room, when im holding her and she pulls my hair and rubs her face with my shoulder, and yes even when she spits up on me, LOl. What im trying to say is not that you have to keep your baby but to really really think about what you want. Discuss it with the babys dad and your parents, if your parents are willing to be there to help. If you parents help you, you can still go to school and finish. I started school again while my dad babysits and than I come home and he goes to work. On weekends my mom gives me a break and babysits while I go hang out with my friends. Having a baby is hard work, but your life wont end. So imagine if I would have given her up, I would never know what it feels like to really love someone, a love that you dont feel for your parents, siblings, or even your husband/wife. Its really nice...but its up to you. Its your decision...and make sure you wont regret it in the future


ANSWER #52 of 68

your only 16 and I'm not trying to sound mean but mowt16 year old girls are immature and your just a kid your self I think you should keep the baby I just found out who my real dad was and I was pissed off because he didn't want me and he was young. Keep your baby you had sex if you can have sex then. you can raise a baby do you know what. Protection is keep your baby if you can. If. Personally I don't believe in adoption or abortion I THInks its wrong but that's my opion just think its going to come out of you and your going to have it in ya fa 9months it has u. In it. Keep it. I hope you don't regret it whateva you do


ANSWER #53 of 68

You should keep the baby unless you can't or don't have the money it really needs you remember that sorry if I sound mean.!


ANSWER #54 of 68

The answer to this one is simple-what do you actually think is best? Imagine your future in both situations, then imagine the kid's future. Whichever one works out best, go with it. I could tell you a million statistics, but what you actually choose is all up to you.


ANSWER #55 of 68

I THINK you SHOULD DEFINANTLY KEEP THE BABY! I KNOW IF I GAVE IT UP I WOULD FEEL SO HORRIBLE AFTERWARDS! JUST PLEASE KEEP IT AND LOVE IT LIKE NO OTHER! CONGRATZ


ANSWER #56 of 68

Hey No I disagree with every one of you all I think you should keep the baby because you will regret it later.
I know Your young and all but don't abort it or give it away.
I'm 15 and I would keep my baby no matter what but it's your choice.
I'd say keep it.
And when your pregnant you will start to attach to your baby and you will have problems getting over the attachment.
And if you really don't want to keep it and your 100% sure you don't want it then you can give it away.
But if other people are say to give it away then that's your advice but what do you feel about it?
Do you want to keep it or give it away?
I'm just saying I would keep it but it's your baby, how do you feel you want it or not?
good luck Kristyn


ANSWER #57 of 68

Do whatever you think is best. If you are able to afford the baby and you know that your and your babies future will be ok and you wont be forced to afterit is born anyways then keep it other wise. Give you baby a better life and put it up for adoption.


ANSWER #58 of 68

Well I think you should keep it... I'm 14 and 4 months pregnant, I decided to keep my baby, you become so attached, it wouldn't be a good thing to do, you'd always have to live with it. I couldn't see myself letting go of something I helped make... I hope everything goes well for you


ANSWER #59 of 68

I Asked My Self Th Same Question Apart From The Age My Question Was..Im 14 Am I ready to be a mum I am now 15 with a daughter I am so glad I never gave her up because becoming a mum is the best feelng in the world there isnt any possible words to describe the feeling of becoming a mum. My Daughter Jayden is now 5 months and I love every morning waking up to her chatting away in her cot an as I look over into her cot I see a cheeky smile it just makes waking up in the morning worth while. Shes a mummys lil girl as well as her daddies lil girl I really dont know what I would do if I gave her up she means the world to me but seriously it is all up to because I must admit it can be a struggle and it is a big change to life and people say having a baby at a young age ruins your life !! I totally disagree having Jayden has made my life worth living and im so glad to have her Good Luck And Im Sure You Will Mae The Right Decision just think what will be best for you and the baby :) x


ANSWER #60 of 68

keep your baby girl its a shock to the system that you are pregnant but I promise you there are options out there to help you finish school and yes it will be hard but believe me I was six years trying for a little baby and I had two miscarraiges before I had my baby I am now 31 and my baby is 7 months old it was the worst thing to think that I couldn't have a baby we take these things for granted please keep your baby you won't regret it the first smile the first words and I promise you your baby will love you no matter what all your baby needs is propper love and no one can give that to a baby like a mammy I promise you you will never regret keeping your baby but you will regret giving him or her up your parents might be saying that they are idssapointed in you but when they see that little baby they wouldn't change it for the world I am speaking from experience two of my friends had babies one of then at 14 and one of them at 15 their parents were really upset but they looked after those babies to let my friends finish collage and your parents will be the same look how much they have sacrificed for you already they will be there for you and if they are not other people will be check out all your options it will work out I promise you KEEP YOUR BABY


ANSWER #61 of 68

you should do what you think is right for you and your baby.
Dont keep the baby if you fel you wouldnt be able to ahndle it, but on the other hand dont give the baby up for adoption if you will regret it later on in life, and dont say you will give the baby up if when you give birth and look at your baby, youll want to keep it.
Do what you think is best for the baby and yourself, you are the only people that this decsion will make a huge impact on.


ANSWER #62 of 68

you need to stop and think...when you give birth to a baby and see its face then decide what to do because you wont want ot give it up when you have the baby

trust me pick the right road for you and the bump!!


ANSWER #63 of 68

its up to you I dont want you to feel you made a big mistake later on in life when its born decide because every body falls in love with there baby when its born its up to you you decide

xxx
good luck


ANSWER #64 of 68

I think you should keep your child. It will haunt you later in life if you aborted it or just gave it away. Its time to take responsibility for your actions. Once the baby is here and you have decided to keep the baby, later in life you'll see you made the right decision. Being able to tuck your baby in bed every night, and to be able to hug and kiss him/her, seeing his/her smiling little face when he's/she's calling you mommy. I'm a mother of two boys, and I'm 21 years old. Yea, I was scared when I found out I was pregnant, but I wouldn't change nothing. My kids are the highlight of my life, I love them sooo much!!


ANSWER #65 of 68

this is your life to live and your decison to make,if you had a heart you make sure your baby was with the right family and guess what you are the right family


ANSWER #66 of 68

if yooh think yooh can handle da baby then keep wit but if yooh think yooh cant then give it to another family who can take care of it.


ANSWER #67 of 68

I was just curious after reading this after you posting it over a year ago, what you decided to do with your baby. I hope everything turned out well for you.


ANSWER #68 of 68

this is your life to live and your decison to make,if you had a heart you make sure your baby was with the right family and guess what you are the right family


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