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I let one of my friends borrow a pair of my jeans and then she ruined them. Then on a separate occasion she borrowed a pair of my shoes and I borrowed hers now my shoes are ruined can I get the money to replace both items? Together they both cost $187.40

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Answer #1

Hi! Excuse me for surely insulting someone, but your firned has established a pattern. If you value her as a friend, I.e. you have great times together, she gives yo happiness, is always there for you, then just simply don’t loan her anything else! But jkeep her as a friend. Sure, it is a fault in her personality that she does not willingly replace something she damaged, but she is still your friend. You cannot place a price on good friendships. If on the other hand, she is not realyy that good of a friend, then quietly and respectfully part company, letting her know you are no longer friends. Don’t be dramatic, just show some maturity. If she ask why, tell her the truth, but don’t make it about money. It is the principle that counts. And by way, as time passes in your life, you will lilkely have plenty of people do this to you. Show your maturity, so your real (Important) priorities, and don’t place so much weightiness to things. Take Care! Don

Answer #2

Thank you and I already have told her nicely I wanted them to be replaced and yes I’m not going to let her borrow anything of mine again but it’s been like 2 months and I want my items replaced.

Answer #3

Wow. Well, tell her what she did and tell her to help get the money back. Now you know she isint very trustwothy with caring for other people’s belongings.

Answer #4

Go to her parents about the issue. If she has no respect for your things, doesn’t care that you’re upset, and has no intention of paying you back, she’s not a very good friend. So if you go to her parents and she gets pissy, then it’s not really going to affect you very much now, is it? :) Plus, you may get your money back if you go to her ‘financers’. :)

Answer #5

Instead of her paying the full amount, negotiate. See, you owned those shoes and those pants for a period of time before she borrowed them, and during that time that you used them they depreciated in value. So ask for like 130-140 back, and let her know that her irresponsibility has lead you to not allow yourself to let her use your stuff.