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How to get my parents to give me more freedom?

Hey all! I’m 18 years old and I go to college full time in Florida ( about to enter my second year). I live in California. I moved to the US when I was young. My parents are very very old school because of that. They even got mad at the doctor because he wouldn’t give them information since I was an adult. My question is, how do I get them to give me a bit more freedom? I would like to go visit my boyfriend (whose parents are also strict but not as bad) of 2 years in Maine, but they won’t let me, saying I’m still a little kid, and they play the “law of the indians card”( a reference to our home country). They began dating when they were 15. I have always been an honor roll student, I never go out partying (even in college), never drink/do drugs, and socialize with very good people. I just want them to allow more freedom. Moving to college helped out a lot since they can’t dictate what I do, but even then I stay behaved. But now than I’m home for the summer I can’t stand how they put me down whenever I ask something of them/ Please please help! This isn’t some teenage rant. I truly and deeply feel like they should be a tad more lenient and let me grow up. I get frustrated with them so easily and never talk back ,so I bottle up all these feelings. Help!

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Answer #1

Why are you still living under their roof? Try explaining to them that you’re an adult now and you’re allowed to do anything you want and that you’ll still keep your grades up you just want some freedom. You sound like a good kid (a little up-tight to be honest) so there’s no reason why they shouldn’t trust you.

Answer #2

Thank you. I’ve tried talking to them but before they listen, they say “no”. I’m not as uptight as I sound. I go out with friends in college, just not to the point that I’m out until 5 partying!

Answer #3

You don’t seem like you’ve done anything to violate their trust so you should sit down with them and tell them since you haven’t done anything to breach that trust, why are they not trusting you now, ask them if you’ve done anything to make them doubt you in the past if they can’t answer you then they know you are right and they are wrong, they can’t control you forever, sooner or later you’re gonna end up moving out

Answer #4

Thank you so much! This helps :)

Answer #5

It’s just that that’s what college kids usually do. If you’re not like that then they have no reason to not let you out. If I was you I’d be going out anyway. And if it’s not affecting your learning or health they don’t have any reason to be like that. :)

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