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my parents are amazing. they mean a lot to me and I know theyre only making me miserable because they love me. I've been raised well and I know the difference between right and wrong. I've always been a good girl and I just dont get why theyre doubting me. im 15 years old and they wont even let me kiss my own boyfriend! I've kissed him though but it sucks that I have to hide that stuff from my parents. I wish I could be honest with them all the time. all of my friends kiss their boyfriends and their parents dont care one bit. also, they wont let me go anywhere with my boyfriend alone. only on group dates. they treat me like a child. and I've talked to them about this and ask them for a little more freedom so I can grow up.. but all they say is im trying to grow up too fast. do you think its bad to kiss your boyfriend at 15 years old.. or am I just over reacting? either way, how can I earn my parents trust?
I am good! I always have my room clean and I babysit, I spend time with my family and im barely ever disrespectful. I have great grades and unlike most teens.. I actually go to my parents for advice and let them know whats up. I dont yell at them, ordering for freedom. I go to them and ask politely and we have a really proper concersation. im not meaning to brag, but I always try really hard to my them proud and then this is how im treated? it just doesnt seem fair.
but I do agree with the dinner thing with them meeting my boyfriend. ill make sure to do that. but the reason im not worried about my boyfriend and me doing more than kissing is because were both extremely inexperienced. neither of us have done anything sexual and were both on the same level. he has a great relgious background and a wonderful family [that I've met]. but I do agree that my parents need to meet my boyfriend which will happen very soon. but the only thing is in the past when my parents meet my previous boyfriends, they still wont loosen up. what on earth do I have to do to earn their trust??? :/
like october lover said, your parents do know that kissing can lead to much more..trust me, it can..so they are just worried...to earn your parents trust: dont lie to them ever, be honest...
try to make a compromise with them,...if you pass, they can see that they caN TRUST you MORE..IE: ask them if you and your boyfriend can go to the movies, promise them a time you will be home, and make sure you are there at that time...
its bad to kiss your boyfriend at 15 if you feel your not ready...do what you want to do,not what others or your boyfriend wants you to do,...make sure your ready for anything you do, because there is concequences...from regreting, to loosing your innocence...to getting prego..ETC...sooo yeah...if you feel its right, then kissing at 15 is no problem...
good luck
I'm glad that you are going to take my advice on the dinner meeting lol.. Maybe they saw something in your previous boyfriend that didn't sit well with them! Maybe you could tell your boyfriend some of the things that your parents find interesting and have him talk about it at dinner (make sure he knows what he's talking about, just in case they ask him more than he knows).. I'm glad that you are a good daughter and you don't disrespect your parents, also you let your parents know what is happening in your life (keep it up).
Best of luck,
Let us know how it went when they meet him!
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well, seeing that you have a close relationship with your parents, Maybe if you sat down and talked to them, you guys could come to a compromise. But keep in mind! they wont let the gates just fly open! They are going to slowly give you more freedom, and in order to keep your privalages that you have and encourage them to give you more, don't ever give them a reason to doubt you or not trust you. Show your appreciative, and be very respectful. When making plans, do so ahead of tiume because parents hate being put on the spot.
good luck and I hope this hellp! Tinsley.
well im only 13 and my parents dont care and get this my dad is a cop so your parents are treating you like a kid if my dad the cop will let me kiss and make out with my boyfriend then they should let
Hope your parents give ya some freedom
Sadie
your parents know that by kissing someone, it can also leads to "other things". Its not they don't trust you, they probably don't trust your boyfriend (which kinda suck eh' )
Maybe you could invite him over for dinner, so that your parents can see what type of guy he is..
yay! my boyfriend came over for dinner the other day and my parents love him!!! they say I can go places alone with him and that I have their permission to kiss him. yayayay! ok I dont need this question anymore. it sucks you cant delete them. haha. thanks everyone.
these people are correct it canm lead to more things and let your parents get to know him a little then ask them agin
Prove to your parents that you deserve more fredom by being good.
Freedom is earned