Parents always puttin me down

Having children doesn’t come with a “how to” book. Some parents simply suck at parenting skills. As a child gets older, they begin to focus more on their own likes and dislikes. At times this creates a frustrating situation for the parents because they simply don’t know how to relate well to their children any more as their child grows from childhood to adulthood and increasing independence. I fully agree, I doubt that your parents are intentionally trying to make you feel bad. I think that just at this point in time they don’t know any better.

Another reason is that sometimes parents are busy, stressed out earning a living, or having financial problems. They assume that you already know that they love you, and so they take the “short cut” way of things and just issue the discipline words and skip over the kind and loving statements. They feel that they are handling their “responsibiltiy” of raising and disciplining a child, but they fall way short of expressing their love at a time like that.

Love is a reciprocal action. You may have to show them how much you love them in order to bring them back to reality. Maybe help out a little more around the house than usual, or perhaps make a greeting card for them for no special reason. Perhaps compliment your mother on something that she does. … in other words, be bigger than them at this point in time and teach them by your actions toward them how you would like to be treated. You can actually be a smart little skeemer and turn the entire situation around on your own. Make a secret project out of it. I’ll bet you do great !