Older boyfriend

Ok. 4 days. Are you really, really young or is this a school where nobody dates? I went to a small-ish school, graduated in a class of only 35 people. We had girls and guys dating that were 3-4 years apart on a regular basis, as well as those that were in the same class. Only when we were in junior high did it really seem to get attention - and really only then if the other person was in high school already - we had a girl in my class go to prom when we were in 8th grade because her boyfriend was a junior. I think people in your school are freaking out for no good reason, possibly because they are jealous and possibly because they want to keep control. If it’s “friends” saying these things, it’s more control. If it’s others, it’s most likely jealousy. If teachers or parents are concerned, it’s probably best to sit down and try to talk about it objectively. After all, you’ve been “dating” for only 4 days - not 4 months or 4 years. If it’s a legal issue, such as you’re underage and he’s not, he could get in trouble for even kissing you - possibly ruin his life with a sex offense charge. If you two want to keep “dating” (I say this in quotes because most people under 16 don’t really date as they can’t usually go out without supervision and can’t go anywhere that takes driving, so it isn’t really “dating” at all…but, I digress) I think you need to talk to each other about these people’s problem with your relationship. Decide on what you’re going to say as a couple. If it’s parents, offer to be the adults by instigating a conversation between you, him, and both sets of parents in a neutral location. Then listen to their concerns. They may be things that you haven’t thought of, possibly based on personal experiences! But in the grand scheme of things, 2 years is nothing. My husband is 2 years older than me from October to March, then the rest of the year he’s 3 years older. He was a senior at college when I was a freshman. We’ve been married 8 years and are having baby #2 in December. My grandmother was 2 years older than her husband - so it goes both ways. Her grandmother was 13 years younger than her husband - and they had 4 children. Age is a number, and a source of some people’s opinions. Remember that they’re only opinions, and you don’t have to listen - but you DO need to stand your ground and make a decision about your own life - and if they are true friends, they will respect that. Good luck, my dear :-)