Need advice by 10am today

dizzy, he thinks your body works like his. That is, he’s ready for the main event within a minute of seeing you. You have to teach him about feminine response and desire. If he has a good heart, he’ll understand and want to become a more sensitive, effective lover to you.

You have to remember that you are by definition more mature than he he is. The first thing inexperienced guys have to learn is that it’s not about them and that the best sex comes from giving. He’s fingering you to prepare you to satisfy him. He doesn’t yet know that his real satisfaction (his sense of himself as an effective lover) comes from your excitement and bliss. It’s not all his fault. Girls are notoriously bad about verbalizing what they want/need from the encounter - the good and the bad.

The second thing he needs to learn is that your sexual response is achieved through trust and intimacy. That’s what the cuddling is about. Again, he’s clueless because he thinks your sexuality is the same as his.

In summary, try to talk to him about this and tell him where your buttons are and the order they need to be pushed. Open it up by asking him about his buttons and then turn it around to yours.