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I have a problem I dont think I can fix but I need some advice to get rid of him. I have this new step dad and no one in the family likes him. Him and my mom have been married since oct. 2005 He hits on her, dont give her any money, dont pay the bills, and is an asshole to me, my baby brother, and my mom. They got in a big fight the other night and started breaking things they didnt need to break. She told him to leave and he didnt he spend the night and the next day he lefted and said he wont be back. Well he came back last night, and I knew he would. They get in a fight every other night and he has ripped up pictures of me and my dad, and everything else. I hate him, how can I get rid of him. My mom dont love him, shes not happy. She has told me she isnt happy. She said she hates him with all of her heart, and if she does then why she wanting him to come back to her? I need help!! I dont want him there and neither does anyone else in the family. Should I just leave if alone, or what should I do?!?
You need to report your stepdad to the police. He is endangering you and your mother. Neither of you deserve to be around that kind of behavior. The next time he hits your mother, take a phone, go into another room or outside and call 911. If the situation becomes serious enough, you and your mom could go to a womens' shelter. What you first need to do though, is talk to your mom. You said she hates him, so it shouldn't be a problem getting her to listen. Tell her how you feel and how much you care about her emotional and physical health. If you get yourself and your mother away from this horrible man, find a place to go for family counseling. After what you two have been through, I'm sure there will be some unresolved issues and problems to work through. I wish you the best of luck with your situation. God bless you & be with you<3
i have kind of the same problem, my real dad died when i was 12 (im 20 now) and my mom re-married 3 years after my dad died. none of my family members like him because he doesnt treat her right, he's never hit her but the emotional abuse is really bad, he cuts her down and makes her feel like she's the one who cant get along with anyone. it makes me sick to my stomach when he yells at her and i just want to crawl in a dark hole and wake up. she wont divorce him because he only gets like this like once a month and she says that she made a commitment to him and to God when they got married.... i hate him.... i went online searching for a way to cope with it and i found this.. just know that whenever your sitting in your room crying im probably doing the same thing.. hang in there.
ok you need to respont to this i mean this is no joke i say that when they are fighting you call the police and they will send him to jail now dont let either one of them see you calling if they do it wont be good tell the police to say a neibor called the police so he dosent react on you ok this is important and you have to do this or you mom or you or someone else will get hurt from what im understanding he is really dangerous
So sorry to hear Angela I would love to give you my input but I'll leave this for some one that has more experience in this situation.
Just know that i'll be here for your support and as always a person to talk to.
Sean
Definately try reporting him to the police, or when he hits mum ring cops but don't let him see you so go away from him to ring cops.
Tri to get along with him and if it dosenot work witch most likely it wont get your mom to leave him, or you leave yourself
I have talked to him but He wont leave and when he does start to my mom dont wont him to leave so he dont
Ask your mother why she did not throw him out of the house yet.
