Alright so, last year I sneaked behind my parents' backs by shaving my legs with an eybrow shaver. & I used that kind of shaver ( I know it's not a proper good shaver to use) but I like the way my legs feels. It was smooth and hair free! Until my father saw the eybrow shaver on the tub and he started asking questions to my sister and I to who use the eyebrow shaver. And well I lied by saying I shaved my upper lip, with hair. & it wasn't true. Until my mom started asking me more questions if I did shave any part s of my body more specifically my legs and when ahe found out that my legs were smooth because I hid it by wearingnlong slacks and she rolled up my slacks and was shocked and very, very pissed. She started yelling at me, hurting me by pinching my ears like what filipino mothers and fathers do.. And she told me I will never shave my legs until I finish school. And seriously, next year I'm attending a Catholic high school with skirts and pants as our bottom uniforms! And I don't want to wear pants every single day! Or tights, pantyhoses, or stockings underneath my skirt! Ugh. I really wanna talk about it to my mom to just use a cream to remove hair like Nair or Veet, but I know she'll say 'NO! I told you NO SHAVING!' :'( my dad also got so pised at me, really, really mad when they found out I shaved. My friends shave their legs and it's SUMMER. Honestly, my parents do not understand. My mom has really thin hair, & it doesn't show until you look really, really close. While my dad has thick, dark hairy legs (because well, he's a man) but he does shave his down part of his lips & upper lip hair. Which is UNFAIR! Also my mom doesn't understand because she has what I told you, really fine hair! They think if I shave my hair will grow longer, and thicker and it'll look like a gorilla's hair. And I haven't shaved since last year from this month and my hair looks dark )x It's also 10 days from my Conformation in our school & I have a white dress up to my knee and I don't wanna wear STOCKINGS! :'( My sister has the same hair as my mom so she's fine with it. She always teases me & I'm scared of what my peers will say to me whenI do wear capris, shorts in school.
Please, please help metry conving my parents more over my mom because I'm scared to talk to my dad.. on how to cpnvince them to let me remove my hair. Or even to have really fine hair. Like waxing I heard it takes the hair out and leave you with thin hair when the hair grows. *sigh* I' 13 years old, I can't go alone to convenient stores, malls or my friends' houses unless a birthday party. I'm also filipino. My parents are really strict but please, I beg of you.. help me try conving my mom & dad using the infos I have given. Please and thank you!
Hi, I've kinda stumbled onto this but, as you've asked for any help at all, here goes:
You sound sensible. I dont know what age you are but I dont think thats the problem here.
The problem is: Your parent dont want you shaving.
My advice to convince your parents to let you look your best is remember that they love you, and although it might not seem like it, Im sure they dont want to be known as "the parents of a little gorrilla" as much as you dont want to look lke one!
Tho it mightn't seem like it, they obviously put some effort into you (imho most parents who hate or dont care for their children take the effort-free approach and neglect their children - effort suggests that there is some love there)
So, remembering that they love you more than anything in the world, and that they don't set out to hurt you, try telling your Mum the following kind of heart-to-heart...
"Muuum...if I let my legs sprout for (insert a reasonable timescale here eg: six weeks) six weeks and at the end of six weeks they look like a gorrilla's (or a little monkey's), can we talk about a way to keep them tidy, as Im not going to shave them because I know it might make the hair grow worse?". Obviously, if you look fine at the end of the six weeks you might feel a bit silly, and you will have to give up on it until you actually do look hairier than aerosmith's shared hairbrush.
Thats my suggestion,
All the best!
waxing doesnt make it grow back thinner
and there no such thing as an eyebrow shaver
because your not supposed to shave your eyebrown
your supposed to pluck or wax them
as for yuor legs
bleaching them will make them lighter and less noticable
and you can by hair removal cream that you just spread on your legs, wait 10 minutes and then wipe off and your hair will come off as well
so theres 2 options, that dont involve shaving
but to get body bleach or hair removal cream yyou need to get them from a place like priceline or from the mall
and of course your parebnts probably dont want you going there alone because your still a kid
and there very protective of you
what to say to your parents?
tell that no doubt most of the other girls would have shaved there leg hair or removed it another way
and seeing as though you have dark hair, its a lot more noticcable
and you dont want to get teased at school
tell her that girls can be very cruel, I mean if someone there had a monobrow the girls would be mean to them too
and you dont want to get teased or bullied about it because that can cause a lot of emotional problems during school
Haha wow! I'm Filipino too! Well not full... I'm also Chinese and Japanese which makes parents really strict =P
Well, my parents, and aunts always told me to NEVER shave my legs because they will eventually get hairier and thicker when they grow back. I was aware that was going to happen. When middle school graduation came around, I was really aware about my legs because they were kind hairy... not TOO hairy but I still wanted to get rid of it. I kept talking to my mom about it and asked if I could Nair or something. She finally agreed! After I used Nair, she told me to never shave my legs or use Nair again.
As I got into freshman year, we had P.E.! Now I was really doomed for my legs >< Well, I didn't really care what my mom or aunts think any more because I only shave when I really need to now. Just tell your mom and dad that you're "dalaga" now xD They don't check out your legs anyways right? My parents stopped caring about me shaving my legs eventually.
I'm very surprised that your dad cares when my dad doesn't really care about feminine beauty xDDD
Give your friends 5 bucks to buy a whole bunch of disposable razors at the dollar store for you. Shave anyways and DONT LEAVE THE RAZORS OUT!! I would personally do that but if you're dead set on convincing them then have a serious talk with your mom. Tell her that kids at school are mean and you're growing up and she cant keep you from doing so. Make sure to make you're arguement calm and mature because if you start freaking out she'll start freaking out and will stop listening to you. If she just keeps saying no to every option you give her tell her that shes being really unreasonable and that you dont want to rebel against her but the way she keeps shutting you down is making you feel really crappy. And its going to cause problems if shes not going to let you come to her for this kind of stuff.
Oh and if she says the hair will just get darker after shaving tell her thats why you're supposed to keep shaving. If you need any more help or if you want specifics on what to say to her feel free to message me. :]
ok im really sorry about all this for one. do they not want you to shave for religious reasons or just because they dont want you to? my mom didnt let me shave my legs until I was 12 because she thought I wasnt ready so maybe your parents feel the same way. and all those theories your mother has about the hair growing longer and darker is sooo NOT true! as long as you keep shaving the hairs it will be ok. it isnt darker! but anyways. you need to sit your mother down and talk to her about this. try not to yell because people get defensive and stop listening. tell her your views on why you think you should shave your legs and talk about how you are not her. make sure she understands that you dont have fine hair that people cant see. tell her urs is noticeable and that she needs to realize that there's nothing wrong with having smooth legs. please let me know about updates or if you have anymore questions.
I think you shuld just tlk 2 your mom. if its really neccassary then tlk 2 her. or if its not htat bad hold it off. im 12 il be 13 next week xD and I used nair from 1st grade to 5th then an electric razor for a yr then finally a razor. I regret doing all the because its SO dark and it grows bac SO fast I shave almost every day. but if your really that self consious about it I mean you shuld. its your body? I mean wtf. ik how parents are sometimes tho. my mom doesnt let me wear skirts. :p only for school and its down 2 my knee. trust me your not alone on the annoying parents crisis
your parents suck balla ballz...sorry. OK GET YOUR FRIENDS TO BUY YOU BIC RAZORS(WITH YOUR MONEY OFCOURSE)THEN THE FIRS ONE YOU USE DISPOSE OF IT BUT NOT IN THE HOUSE TRASHCAN A DUMPSTER OUTSIDE OR THROW IT AWAY THEN TAKE OUT THE TRASH. THEN THE NEXT DAY WEAR PANTS ONCE YOU GET TO SCHOOL CHANGE INTO SKIRT WHATEVER. WHEN SCHOOL IS OVER RUN TO THE BATHROOM (DONT MISS THE BUS)CHANGE BACK INTO PANTS SO THEY DONT KNOW CONTINUE THIS CHAIN AND YOU`LL BE FINE!
Wow, I'm so sorry for all this.
I can't imagine having parents like that, but I'll try my best.
Tell her how ugly you feel with all that hair on your legs and explain to her you don't have the same hair she does.
Just explain that you are embarrassed to have hairy legs and that everyone makes fun of you because you don't shave your legs.
Don't yell and don't get angry. I know it may be hard but you have to act mature and responsible.
my parents do the same thing...im 13 too and my parents won't let me do any of that stuff, either
they seem to be oblivious to the fact that I am growing up and treat me like an 8 year old...I still get rides to school! I'm sorry I didn't have an answer to your question, I'm just sharing my feelings...
I actually feel a bit better now..
Shave them behind their backs. And DON'T LEAVE THE FRIGGIN RAZOR OUT! DON'T get caught. Tell them if they want you to grow up, they have to ALLOW you to, which they don't. You may have to even go crazy and... ooh I'm mad hearing this. Wow, the rediculous things that some parents do...
woww my mom is so coolll. I feel for ya girl. . :(
just do it behind their backs and if they yell just be like screw you my friggen legs are hidious. then start crying(crying alwaysworks:) )
and I hope everything works out for youu hunnn.:(
wow...well everything you just wrote tell her...I mean I never had that problem with my mom but I guess if you just tell her about the skirt and the white dress she'l' understand... good luck =
im not allowed to shave either I use the leg mitts( boots or superdrugs sell them ) they get rid of all the hair there and only leave the blonde ones my legs feel lovely after :)
I'm sorry dude your parents suck, I'd do it anyway I'd get my friends to buy them and such. that in my eyes is unhygenic, sorry man...
Shave them anyway, they're your legs