My boyfriend is wonderful and loving. But he's pressuring me to have sex with him. What should I do?
Your bf does NOT love you, and he cant be all that wonderful if he is pressuring you to have sex. Here is some info i pass on everytime this question comes up> Please take this to heart!
*Any guy who truly cares about you, would never push you into sex. Sex is a huge deal, no matter what some people say.*
Think about your body as a valuable treasure - something priceless and rare and incredibly special. It should not be shared with just anyone who treats you nicely, even if you really like him. Rather, you should save that kind of intimate physical connection for a guy who proves by his actions over a LONG time - not just a couple of months - that he truly loves you and respects your feelings and wants to be together with you for the long-term.
How will you know if your BF loves you this way? You will see it in many ways... most importantly, that he will be patient with you setting a slow pace for sexual involvement. Generally, a boy who will care for you after sex is also a guy who will wait a long time for sex without pressuring you. A guy who loves you will treat you with respect, listen to your feelings, put you first in his life, be proud of including you in activities with his friends and family, cheer you up when you are down, and show his love in many other such ways.
If your BF is in a hurry for sex, that is a sign that he won't treat you respectfully afterward. You need to inform him sweetly, but firmly, that you will not be rushed into doing anything so major.
Don't let him talk you out of what you know is right. If you make out with someone, no matter how far you go, it does NOT mean that you have to go all the way
Don't be embarrassed or think you will sound immature by saying no to sex. Choosing not to have sex is VERY mature. It would be immature to be pressured into something you don’t want!
Tell him how you feel about him, and be honest. If you don't feel close enough to him yet, say so. If you really love him but aren't interested in sex right now, say so.
Tell him the depth of your commitment to keeping yourself innocent for now. If you don't plan on having sex until you are married, say so. If you simply know you are not ready right this moment, then say so.
If he tells you, "If you loved me you'd do it”, come back at him with, "If you loved me you'd wait". Sex is NOT the only way to show your love for another person. If he loves you, he will wait forever if needed.
Keep in mind that if it was meant to be with you and this guy, it was meant to be right for BOTH of you, not only for one of you.
Remember, having sex is a big deal and not having sex is perfectly normal. Despite what you may have heard, virgins are a majority in most high schools, not a minority.
Well a year is a long time for a guy to stick around... it sounds to me like he really is in for the long haul... but i could be wrong... someone who stays with someone for a year without sex... seems as though he is not in it for the sex... but maybe i am wrong... he also should understand your wishes and back off a bit... but it can be tough for a guy... hormones are a crazy thing... i consider myself to be a nice guy and i respect women very much, but that doesn't mean i could live without having sex with my lover...
ok tis what you do if u want it do it . it does not matter what age you are as long as you love him.but if u are not ready say no if he dont understand he just wanted a realtionship fopr sex.so do what you think.if u have any other relationship advice send me a funmail.good luck
This all depends on how long you have been going out... and well what "pressuring" is to you... so please explain more...
weve been to together 4 about a year.he alwys asking me about it