My dad raped me when I was younger

When I was younger my dad raped me. He’d come into my room at night. I have been out of his house and on my own living with my boyfriend for about 6 year’s now. I went and did a clinical trail for PTSD at the University of Washington, and it seemed to help a little. I’ve more or less tried to forget about it and put it in the past. Because my dad raped me, he is not allowed to be in the same room as me, or come within 500 feet of me. So far this has been absolutely fine with me. However, my brother is due to be married in October next year. I would dearly love to go to my brother’s wedding. The problem is, that if I go, My dad cannot. Part of me thinks that that is stupid. I do not understand why we cannot agree to be adults and not talk to each other, so that we can both go to my brother’s wedding. He already missed both his kids graduations because of what he did to me, I don’t want him to miss his son’s wedding too. The only way I can go to my brother’s wedding, is if we talk to certified counselor and get them to sign something saying we are willing to reconcile. At this point I am not sure I am willing to reconcile anything, but at the same time not getting this to some point where we can at least be in the same area together, even if we don’t talk will end up screwing up any family get togethers that may happen. Do I just turn my back on my entire family, or do I go to counseling? I know that if I do this is does not mean that I ever have to talk to him again, but it would be nice to see other members of my family.