My boyfriend may be moving his ex in with him...

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost three years now. We are not living together (for many reasons, thats not what my question is about).

Last night he called me and told me that his sons mother (the child is almost 4) is losing her job within the next 60 days. She isn’t an ex in the sense that they had a long relationship…they were seeing each other only 6 weeks when she got pregnant and it basically ended soon after that (before she even found out about the pregnancy).

Anyway, he proceeded to tell me that he told her if they couldn’t pay their bills that they could both come stay with him. Now, his son obviously is a given. I have absolutely no problem with that, I would even help him with sitting when I could. However, this woman is out of the question. I understand that he wants to help her, but he already pays her over $500 a month in child support and her bad decisions in life are not his or my problem! If this ends up happening, I will have to break up with him. I have this funny feeling in my stomach though that I am overreacting. What would anyone else do? Am I wrong to expect him to let her be out on the street? (The woman has no where else to go, no friends in the area no family…)

Answer #1

she comes, yew go.. because he shouldnt put her before yew.. he should offer to take in da kid, until she gets her own place… and back on her feet, but she cant stay there with him.

thats not right at all, yes $500 is enough.. and she should be able to support herself and da child.

-Alice

Answer #2

trust me, you dont want to get in a situation where your man thinks its okay to put other women before you. I got myself into that and it is not a happy place to be. it would be way better to just quit while you are still ahead.

Answer #3

How come she has no friends or family at all? are you sure? Your not overreacting. Every girl would feel that way if their boyfriend wants to get his ex in his house. things could happen between them even if they didn’t have a long relationship, so it’s really no safe at all. Everyone has some family or friends so I don’t think he’s the only one in the world that could help her. If he really wants to help her, maybe he could find some other place for her to stay, and use half of the money he pays her for the kid for her. I think $500 is a lot for only one kid so I think she could use the half of it for her to survive.

Answer #4

man f* that tell him if she comes you go

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