My Boyfriend is leaving

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now. He’s also in the Air Force and this is what we (more he) decided:

It isn’t fair for either of you to wait. You’re young, you’re in the middle of a huge transition in your life– you’re changing and you need room to do so. My boyfriend and I actually broke up but are together “unofficially” because he thinks it is too much for him to ask me to wait for him. As hard as this was to grasp, he’s right. I shouldn’t have to put my life on hold for the next 4-6 years when my career is just starting. I just graduated from college and would love to marry him before he left, but his joining the Air Force was his decision to better his life first, and make him more responsible for the future. He won’t ask me to wait for him just as I couldn’t ask him to wait for me. If you’re meant to be, you’ll still be together. He’ll call you any chance he gets (which won’t be often) and you’ll know he still loves you and is thinking of you often. The fact is, he’s going to change when he leaves and you can’t be mad at him. It’ll happen whether he wants it to or not. You just have to be mature enough to realize that, even if it hurts, you’ll appreciate and respect each other a lot more if you give each other space.

I’m not saying it’ll be easy– anything but that– but when he comes back, your relationship will be better than ever. Obviously you need to talk to him about it, but I truly believe this is the best decision that my guy and I could’ve ever made. That old cliche is true: if you love something, set it free– if its meant to be, it’ll come back. My guy has always come back to me and I doubt he will again. Good luck.