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Why wont she leave her boyfriend?

Basically im in love with a 27 year old woman. Im 20 and usually am free from feelings like this. She has been with her on off bloke for 5 years. She says she loves me and im the one. But we did go out for a week and she went back to her boyfreind. At the moment im saying im not bothered by it, and to an extent im not really. As im seeing other girls and she knows it aswell. we still have sex and we still do all the things we done before she got back with him. She says im better that him, more fun, happier and a milloin other things, but she still sees him. He paid for sex when they went out last time and he has give her countless black eyes. All I want is an answer from an onlooker to say if its a bad idea to pursue this girl. If it comes back and most people say et another one. then I will. But you need to know that love is love and I’ve never felt so strong about someone before. She buys me stuff all the time, and always helps me out unconditionally, maybe I need to be actually do something and not act like im unaffected. any help would be grateful?

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Answer #1

You still have sex with her while she is with him? You do realize then, that she is probably having sex with him as well when you are with her (I.e. CHEATING)? I think this woman has a big bag of issues that she has to open up and sort out first before committing to ANYONE.

I think she needs professional help. It’s unhealthy in many ways to stick in an abusive relationship, and feeling stuck in the relationship because she is too insecure and weak-willed to stand up for herself to know what she really wants. And I think you are her temporary balm to make herself feel good before she jumps in with the other guy again to try to please him (which wont happen and wont do any favors for her).

She has a problem with physical closeness, and emotional attachment. If you really love her, I think you should step in and tell her that she needs help and she needs to get out of a controlling and abusive relationship like that. Not because you want to have her all to yourself, but you want to see her happy, secure, and confident with herself and her needs. She will probably need counseling to fully get over her relationship with the other person and her other relationship problems. Just be there for her.

Answer #2

She says im better that him, more fun, happier and a milloin other things She says she loves me and im the one>>Seriously, if that were true, she would be with you, & you only! You are just her comfort zone she has going on the side, but HE is the one she truly loves.

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