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I am 15, and my boyfriend is in prison hes not a "bad boy" or anythink just a mistake.. I have olny been with him a year and a bit, and he's looking at 2 years, im unsure in what I am ment to do. should I stay with him or am I too young. what if it dont work out. I have asked my friends and they keep saying what ever you think, but I dont no what I think lol. Help!x
This kind of thing can be a burden. At your age, you have to be thinking about your education and other such things. If you decide to wait for him, just make sure that you don't become consumed or anything. Talk to him in person if you can and discuss this with him. Tell him that you're young and that this is going to be a difficult relationship to manage. He has to understand that you can't always be going out of your way for him and he is in no position to tell you that you should (seeing as he did make what was probably a foolish mistake).
If I were you I would move on. It's a long time to wait and you are so young. You will meet other people and yet you won't be able to interact closely with them because of your boyfriend. It's possible that he will be a completely different person when he gets out of prison. Not to mention that even when he is out of prison, there will be so many complications (eg. employment, community reputation, etc). Be careful! In this case I would recommend that you move on, because at your age, this kind of burden is a little too complex. Hope that helps :)!
15 is kind of young to wait for your boyfriend to get out of jail...depending on what he did he may have a VERY hard time finding a job. Meaning if you did stay with him after two long lonely years, living together may not be so fun as he might not be able to get a great job.
Honestly..I would say wait for him, but keep your options available. What I mean is, don't necessarily go out of your way to find someone else but if someone just happens to come into your life, why not pursue it?
Also, now please don't quote me on this...but the percentage of people who leave jail and go back is pretty high...something like 50-70%. If you stay with your boyfriend, and you have a life with him, you better make sure he isn't in that 50-70%.
Honestly, the percentages of statistics only mention what is going on, and not why it’s happening. I’d say a lot of people end up in prison and go back is that most people in society don’t give them a chance. Sure, there are people that really deserve to go back, but with the amount of people who immediately give up on giving an education or job to people who to go prison for even minor cases, it’s not a surprise they go back to crime to live on the only money they can.
But you know him and yourself best.
In short: You're 15, live your life. Enjoy. You're too young to think about whether he is in there for a good reason or not. It takes some people a lifetime to get to know themselves let alone another person. Do yourself a favor and let him prove to society first that he can stay out of jail before you even consider giving him a second chance...
Well, What did he do? Got me all interested now, and it really isn't up to us to tell you, it's if you want to wait for him that matters, if you think you can wait 2 years for him without wanting another boyfriend (you WILL get lonely) then wait for him, if not then don't.
a figth got a little out of hand and he is now im prison 4 gbh, he dosnt get sentenced until january next year.. thanks x
he got 8 years. I finshed it lol