My Boyfriend hates me...

I”ve been with my boyfriend for about 5 years now and ever since I whent to college he’s acted strange. I’ve tried to confront him about his change of additute and it only makes it worse. He tells me that I have changed and that I am no longer interested in our relationship wich is completely untrue. I am very much in love with him, but school dose get extremly frusterateing. He always tellst me that I am inconsistant and that I let people walk all over me. I’ve been doing everything in my power to make it easier for both of us. I dont have any friends at school because he tells me I have bad taste in friends, whenever I am upset I always talk to him about it and I’m afraid that I have made him believe that people always hurt me because I usually only talk about people I know when I am upset. when I talk about it when I am happy, he also gets mad because he thinks I would prefer to see friends then him or that I’m hanging out with the wrong crowd or cheating, so this is why I dont have friends and dont join clubs at school. I am very unhappy because dispite my best efforst I seem to do nothing but upset him. To make things worse I recently got into a bad argument with my father over school and mind you my father is a wonderful loveing man, but he is human and he gets angry and says things he dosent mean. I talked about this with my b/f and he has been insulting my father unmercifully and also insults me too. He tells me time and time again that I need to stand up for myself and yet he walks all over me and gets mad when I try to stand up to him. I’m wondering if I’m really a bad person and hes right and if theres anythng else I can do to make things right.